Stop worrying about things I can not control and be ok with the fact that I cant control it all.

[dori757]

GI am the ultimate control freak. I need to be doing it all or I feel like something won't Be right. I have a seven year old daughter with an anxiety disorder. I constantly try to avoid things that will stress her out. In that respect I control her life and ours down to the minute. I get so upset because I can't make other kids be her friend and be nice to h her. I can't make them understand her condition. This year I'm gonna let het find her way. I'm gonna understand that she may get her feelings hurt and I will comfort her. I'm gonna stop trying to protect her from life.

[coridunn]

Jan. 19, 2010 at 4:26 PM

This was my resolution last year and you know if you really stick to this you will find your life as well as your daughter's life will be much more fulfilling.  Think about this: your need to control everything may contribute to your daughter's anxiety.  I know that my children as well as my husband reactions are based upon mine and when I'm tense and stressed so are they.  When I am calm and happy so are they.  Your sweet girl feeds off your energy give her some positive energy to carry with her which will have a trickle down effect of boosting her confidence and may result in her being calmer and more able to make wonderful friends.  I have a special needs child and I worried about her making friends but when I let her go and spread her own wings she now interacts with others just fine.  Good luck to you and your daughter.

[dori757]

Jan. 20, 2010 at 10:10 AM Thank you so much for the kind words of wisdom. It was just what I needed to hear.

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