Tired,,,, And dosen't feel appericated

[sammie0120]

Hello everyone, 

It always seems that i get the short end of the stick all of the time, In my child hood now in my adult life.

I Love my husband and I know that he loves me. sometimes I would love if he could show me some of the love I show him, I always try to make his birthdays special, Well yesterday was my birthday and I had to do everything for my self. as usually I am tired of him saying her is the money go buy what you want. I want him to show some thought and effort Like I do for him all of the not just for his birthday but his everyday life. he is the only man that I have ever been with that certain days are not important to him, I have tired to talk to him and he just says what do you want me to do. I say all of the time do something. I keep telling him that if he dose not show me something he is going to lose me. I don't go out looking for what I am not getting at home, I have been with him so long that he doesn't feel like he should have to woo me any more, Not like he really did it in the first place. 

[MSugarKane]

Jan. 21, 2010 at 6:31 AM

Last June was my birthday.  I spent it with my 2 yr old grandson out of total boredom.  My birthday fell on a Saturday.  Everyone else in the house had the day off. They did say, "happy birthday ' to me in the morning when I got up, but after that, nothing.  So I went out and enjoyed the day with the baby.

Hmmm, now so two weeks ago was my husbands birthday.  He was wondering what I was going to do for his birthday.  I said, to him,  exactly what you did for my birthday ,  nothing.

He got the point so in six months I wonder if he will remember the point. 

I doubt it.

I have been married 29 years this year. We are comfortable with each other. Secure with each other.  That honeymoon phase past a long time ago.  We love each other and that is what really matters.

Society makes all these rules for birthdays, Valentines day, Christmas, etc.   Society makes one think one has to do for the spouse in a big way each time one of these holidays comes around.  Truth be told, it gets tedious after years of marriage.  I rather he help me as he does on a daily basis then get something I don't need on a birthday.

 

[sammie0120]

Jan. 21, 2010 at 12:37 PM

Yes so true, I have been married for twelve years. Yes you are right, I don't always want a gift you a little more appreciation, 

(Original Poster)