3 Resolutions for Divorcing Moms

[ResilientMom]

 

Even if you've already made your resolutions, here are three more that merit your consideration.

 

#1     TO TREAT MYSELF WITH COMPASSION

We divorcing moms are loving nurtures of our families and our friends. We will willingly sacrifice sleep, time, money to assist those we love.  That's great and part of what makes us who we are.

But, here's a question: Are we as compassionate with ourselves as we are with others?  Too often, the answer is no.  We speak harshly to ourselves and focus on what we haven't done, rather than congratulating ourselves on the progress we have made. We neglect ourselves and rarely enjoy our own gifts with ourselves. Treating ourselves with compassion is not an indulgence. It is a necessity. It's worth repeating:  Your kids need you now more than ever. But, if you don't take care of yourself, you can't be there for them.  Extend compassion in your own direction and everyone wins.

 

 

#2     TO TAKE MY HEALTH AS SERIOUSLY AS THAT OF MY KIDS

Where our kids are concerned, we pay close attention sniffles, coughs, and every ache they mention.  We never skip their medical or dental appointments.  So when was the last time you went to the doctor?  Have you had a check-up?  What about a cholesterol screening?  When was the last time you visited your ob-gyn? Your good health is one of your greatest assets, so take it seriously.

 

 

#3     TO LEARN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN URGENT AND IMPORTANT AND ACT ACCORDINGLY

The key to negotiating major life change is knowing the difference between what's urgent and what's important.  Urgent matters may be time-sensitive but may lack lasting significance.  Other people may have strong feelings about a situation, which may give it an emotional charge that makes it seem pressing.

 

Knowing what's important keeps you on purpose in your life. Handle important matters during the most productive part of your day.