Now or Later...Husbands that Procrastinate

[qutykat]

Had an argument with the hubby last night.  I came down with a cold Friday evening, but I still managed to do all the chores around the house, clean the bathroom, cook, even bake cookies for the girls. And what has he done? Nothing.  He said he was going to do the dishes Sunday night and but ends up falling asleep in the girls room while he should have been playing with Joey, my 4yr old daughter.  In the time that he is napping, I've done dishes, written a curriculum for the nanny to follow the following day, and hung up some clean clothes.  I finally go into the girls' room to wake him up and he gets up and goes into our bedroom where I had a laundry basket filled with socks that needed to be matched up and put away.  I go into the girls' room and reads 2 stories to Joey and tuck her into bed. 

I get out of her room and sees that he's watching TV in the living room.  I told him, "I thought you would at least do the socks while you were in the bedroom."  He was like, "I'm going to do it, I'm just checking the score."  I say nothing and went into the bedroom and start on the socks.  He comes in a few minutes later and says, "I told you I was going to do them."  I told him that it didn't matter because I'm doing it now.  He starts to go off at me for the way I was treating him, and I went off at him for not helping me around the house.  I told him that I'm sick but I still managed to do everything I needed to get done around the house this weekend.  I guess I was looking for some type of appreciation from him.  So this turned out to be a huge argument with us screaming back and forth at each other.  He made a bowing motion to me sarcastically saying that he's not worthy or whatever.  That's when I told him,  "F**K you!" 

I probably shouldn't have said that, but I just felt so unappreciated and so disrespected that it pushed me to the point where I did say it.  I don't understand why he would get mad at me for just doing something that needed to be done.  I don't care that he says he's going to do something, if I'm free and able to do it right then and there, I'm going to do it.  I'm not going to let dishes sit in the sink or leave something unfinished when I'm capable of finishing it myself.  I'm sorry if that makes him feel bad or worthless, but I can't stand that he procrastinates and I don't see the problem with me going ahead and doing the task when he fails to do it in a timely manner.

I'm so confused and needless to say, my husband and I aren't talking today.  I think he needs to apologize for disrespecting me.  It's hard to stay mad at him for very long, but this time I'm going to wait for an apology even if I have to sleep in the girls' room for the rest of the week.

[bearsbabies]

Jan. 25, 2010 at 3:02 PM

my husband does the same thing.....I like to do what I can when I can as it needs to b done. He just wants to be able to do something for you that you will appreciate and if you do it first he doesnt get an opportunity. at least thats what my husband says

[silly_you]

Jan. 26, 2010 at 2:01 PM

I call the men like this last minute Larrys~I think it is a man thing? lol