7 year age gap but man do they ever love each other

[Fordmomma]

I guess I thought my 2 DD's would never really have a sibling bond until they were older like 20 and 28, but it is amazing to see the love they have for each other. When Lilly goes to hers "dads" house for the weekend Nicole turns into a crabby pants. She is always trying to crawl into to Lil's room and check to see if she is there. Nothing makes her in a better mood all the classic "happy" go to things never work. So on the weekends Lilly does go away. I can never even put Nico down. She flips out and naps more than normal. Its like she wants to say "don't bother waking me until my sissy gets back I can't stand you people".

Lilly was so excited when I was pregnant she knew I was having a girl and nothing could convince her otherwise. I told her you know if you do have a brother I don't think he will care for the nickname "Princess Strawberry Shortcake". She says well "its okay mom because that is my sister not my brother" I will never forget how nervous Lilly was about me getting a c-sec, so we choose not to tell her the date I was having it. It was a school day and I know she knew something was up, because it was Monday and I was in house clothes. Me and dad dropped her off early for daycare that day and with a kiss  I said goodbye to my only child for the last time. Like always she kissed my belly and said "bye Nicole you be nice to momma today".

That afternoon DH went and got Lilly early from daycare. She walks in the room and tears just start like a waterfall. She was so proud and happy. "I will do this for her" "I will teach her this" "I will save this to give to her" She held her and was so amazed by her size. She held her like a china doll made of glass.

I really thought I had a great bond with my sisters, but I look at them and and I'm not so sure we had what they have even though we are closer in age. Lilly can be so wrapped up in something and pay no attention to Nicole, but that baby girl won't take her eyes off of her big sissy. If Nicole is already asleep when Lilly goes to bed she will say "when Nico wakes up tell her I love her and give her a kiss for me" I always do to. Lilly is such a great helper she is always grabbing something I need or keeping Nicole busy when I'm trying to get something done. Lilly sings to her and reads to her. When I read to Nicole she could care less (I do it any way I learned with Lilly who never paid no mind at all that in long run it WILL teach them to read sooner) But when sissy reads to her the world stops turning and all attention is on sissy and the page of the book.

So last night we went and got Lilly and Nicole was asleep in the truck. So when we got home and she awoke to find her sister there my happy sweet little baby returned. It was already getting late for a school night so we are getting homework and bags packed for the next day. I let Lilly stay up a little longer because I missed her too. But bedtime had to come at some point so me and Nicole went and said prayers with Lilly and read a short story and kissed her ni-ni. Then all hell broke loose at my house Nico starts the whole back arche screaming pulling biting crap. I had enough I went and laid her in her crib and she was still freaking out a few minutes later. So I went and got her and I had to set her down to grab something. She starts crawling off and dad follows her she goes into sissy's dark room and starts to pull on her blanket. Lilly was still awake and I can hear her talking to Nicole. Dad turns on the light and stands in the doorway. Lilly says "I know I will read her a long book how bout that dad" I hear him "okay but its getting late and I don't want you to be tired tomorrow" she says "well I don't want you to be tired either" So Lilly gets out the book Snow by Dr.Suess. That book hold a special spot in my heart it was the first book Lilly read perfect with no help just weeks after starting to learn to read. I think its like 60 some pages. NE-ways so Lilly starts to read the book with Nico on her lap and me and DH are peering from around the corner watching them. Lilly is reading the book and asking Nicole questions like I used to do with her. Nicole is just so excited with every page looking at sissy then back at the book. I look over at DH on the other side of the doorway and he has tears in his eyes. Oh my super manly man who NEVER crys had tears in his eyes witnessing the bond that "our" 2 children have. So the book gets finished and me and Nicole did the whole bedtime routine including a 2nd set of prayers and shut off the light. I then went and put Nicole in bed and without a peep she lets out a sigh  flips on her side and is out like a light. I walk by Lilly's door and say softly "Lilly you are such a good big sister I love you so much" and she says "well I'm lucky to have a little sister I really do love her mom" I go out to the living room and DH is sitting there and I say to him "getting a little choked up about your babies there are you" he says "I missed out on so much being an only child, but I'm so happy I get to see our kids have all those things. I wish I could afford to give you a dozen kids honey"

I really am lucky and very happy my kids love each other so much. I know with different ages the way thay are with each other will change, but as of right now Lilly is Nicole's idol and I don't think Lilly minds one bit being the center of attention in her little sisters world.

Now if Lilly never had to go away for the weekend we would never have problems LOL!!!

[s.adams]

Jan. 27, 2010 at 2:16 PM

That is so good that they love each other, hopefully it will stay that way.  I wish I had a sister when I was growing up or at least a better relationship with my brother.

[8sweetpea]

Feb. 1, 2010 at 3:14 AM

that was a beautiful post honey, thank you so much for sharing it with us! I loved every bit of it, made me feel so warm and cozy inside-beautiful!