Husband's son...

[Sandy601]

Ok so here is the newest situation with my husband's son. We have a vacation house at the beach which is about three hours from where we live. We don't go there often because life has been busy. My husband wants to do a weekend get-away just us. I don't want to leave his 16 year old son at home alone. I DON'T TRUST HIM! My husband says we have to trust him sometime. I told him you can, I don't have to. He says we let the other kids stay home by themselves, we have to let him. I say no we don't. Just because you do for one doesn't mean all the kids are the same. He definitely isn't. His only chore is to do the dishes after dinner and clean the kitchen, he can't even do that. Our second oldest was here for dinner last night and my husband's son was so rude to everyone and my husband said it's OK he had a bad day. Our daughter says it isn't ok for him to take it out on all of us and I have to say she is right. My husband should have stomped on his behavior. So after dinner he does the dishes and our daughter said she would dry and put away the pans. In the meantime the son goes to the school for a school concert. Our daughter goes to dry and put away the pans and had to rewash every single one of them, they were that bad. I don't dare say anything to husband's son because after all he had a bad day. We all have bad days, deal with it. Anyway I don't trust the kid to stay here by himself with the two dogs, he never lets them outside, has to be told to feed them. I can't even imagine what I would come home to if we did leave him. My husband was mad because I refuse to leave him home by himself. The kid lies all the time. Says he is at school when I know for a fact the teachers leave by 3:30 PM. And the kid doesn't come home til 5. I can only imagine where he is, but I don't say anything because I always get shot down. He used to do the exact same thing to me with my daughter who is now at college but the difference is my daughter is responsible. Always helps with dinner, dishes, vacuuming, bathing and feeding the dogs, doing her laundry all without being asked. My husband's son has to be told to take a shower. He hates everything that is right and good in the world, if you don't agree with him you are crap because his opinion is the only one that matters. He especially thinks school is stupid and that teachers are stupid and give stupid tests. He thinks it is stupid that tv didn't come out until the 50s and that it is ridiculous we had to wash dishes by hand because no one was smart enough to invent a dishwasher earlier. He thinks everything should come handed to him on a silver platter, he thinks he is a MAN. I really mean he thinks this to be true and that we should let him do whatever he wants after school because it is his time and no one elses. He has believed this since he was about 12 or so. He thinks that he doesn't have to do homework, once again outside of school it is his time and no one elses and he can do what he pleases. My husband doesn't really do anything to discourage him. I cannot wait until the kid moves out. I count the days until he turns 18 and leaves, as I can tell you he is a junior in high school and is 14 credits short at this time - he will drop out at 18 and my rule is no school, you are out on you butt.