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Mother Blessing - A Mother Blessing is a celebration for a new life. 

Unlike your typical baby shower, there is no commercial gift giving emphasis. The guests are invited to spend time with the mother-to-be. The tone of the Mother Blessing is much more positive, you won't find those horror stories of labors and early parenting that seem to be so common in a traditional baby shower.

When I got pregnant I knew I didn't want to have a 2nd baby shower.  After reading Birthing from Within I decided that a Mother Blessing would be more appropriate.  This type of gathering would allow me to spend time with my friends without putting pressure on them to bring an unneeded gift.  Don't get me wrong, gifts are nice; it just so happens that I kept everything from when Logan was a baby.

We celebrated yesterday, and the Mother Blessing was everything I had expected and more.  Old friends, new friends and family all came together to offer encouragement for the upcoming birth.  We talked of my plans surrounding the home birth.  We also discussed breastfeeding, cloth diapering and everything else surrounding caring for babies while we stuffed our faces.

The early crew...

Later on in the party...

Everyone was asked to bring a bead.  I didn't give instructions in hopes that it would inspire creativity.  Most admitted that they struggled with what to buy, but in the end it created more diversity.  We ended up with a variety beads, charms and three lockets.

Lindsey also brought her entire collection of earth stones for those who wanted to contribute that way.  Each one of her stones has a specific meaning. 

A few of my friends picked beads with the following significance...

Aquamarine:  Ancient legends tell how it changes color to reveal true and false, friend and foe.  It also encourages growth and foresight.  It clears confusion, stimulates orderliness and brings unfinished business to a conclusion. 

Tree agate:  It encourages inner peace and certainty.  It makes us aware of our own strength and thus gives security and stability.  Tree agate strengthens endurance and constancy.  It gives courage in situations in which we feel unprotected.  It awakens the warrior in us and the urge to strive and conquer. 

Pearl:  Pearls have been used to aid fertility and to ease childbirth.  It inspires purity, innocence, serenity, tranquility, focus and helps us get in touch with the simple honest things in life.  Pearls attune the wearer to the ebb and flow of life.  They are calming and centering, and especially enhance personal integrity.

Megan and Lindsey putting together a game plan...

Megan and Lindsey decided to make a main necklace for the large locket, along with two smaller ones for the smaller lockets.  They also made me a bracelet that incorporated the charms.   We didn't have time to finish the two smaller necklaces at the party so I am going to pick those up from Lindsey another day. 

Here is a picture of me modeling the main piece...

We passed around a notebook so everyone could leave a birth blessing; an encouraging message for the upcoming birth.  I had to leave it at Lucy's house so a few family members could contribute too.  I can't wait to read what everyone wrote! 

Everyone was also given a candle as a parting gift to light once my birthing time begins. 

I received some lovely poems from a couple guests.

One was from a friend I met through Cafemom.  She wrote it herself!  Here are a of couple excerpts that made me misty eyed:

Blessed be baby
Blessed be your breath

Each & every one you take

May your breath be deep and relaxed
May you inhale the power of life with every breath you take
May you exhale all negativity
May your voice -both your complaints and your special offerings to the world be truly heard

Blessed be

Blessed be baby
Blessed be your spirit
May you know the innate goodness of your being
May you always be in tune with your inner self
May you be fearless in the face of adversity
May you be curious and open to new experiences
May you learn from your trials and tribulations
May these times be few and far between
May you always defend what you know to be true
May you always be surrounded by warmth of family and community
Blessed be

Sue, Lindsey and Katy included this touching poem in the card they gave me:

There is but one and only one,
   whose love will fail you never.
One who lives from sun to sun.
   with constant fond endeavor.

There is but one and only one.
   on earth, there is no other.
In heaven a noble work was done,
   when God gave man a Mother.

The trinkets...

Overall, it was an event I will cherish for years to come :-)

A special thanks to Lucy, Megan and Lindsey who made it a huge success!

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 9:57 AM

Lorel, that was beautiful!  I'm so happy you got to experience such love from your friends and family, you deserve it!

The candles turned out beautifully!  Good job, mama. 

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 10:05 AM

It looks lovely Lorel!  The necklace is beautiful and I really like the poems.  I'm glad you got to have such a nice experience! :)

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 10:36 AM

I've never heard of a Mother's Blessing before. I think it seems lovely though. I love your necklace and especially the poems.  I love that everyone contributed a bead to your necklace. What a great party!

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 11:10 AM

Thanks for sharing with us Lorel,  sounds like it was a very special day!  :)

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 12:21 PM

Lorel I was just going to ask you what a mother blessing was lol. It looks like such a wonderful uplifiting expirience and I am so happy that you shared it with me! O.k., 'us'!

You look amazing and I am wishing you the best birth expirience ever. May you treasure it like you will with your blessing!

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 1:06 PM

I'm happy that it was such a beautiful experience for you to cherish. The poems are beautiful too. =)

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 3:22 PM

That is  amazing!! Beautiful memory to wear for ever!!

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 3:57 PM


I wish I could have been there!

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 8:11 PM

What a beautiful experience.  

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Jan. 31, 2010 at 10:08 PM

happyglad I could be the cafemom attende! I had a ball & hope your little one enjoys its poem!

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