During each pregnancy it has been blatantly obvious to me that the majority of people think pregnancy is a free pass to make random comments about a womans' size or appearance. There are a select few who make the comments respectively, but the vast majority I have come in contact with have had very little tact.
I take two elevators to get to my cubicle, and take those same two elevators when I leave to go home. If I decide to go to lunch then that adds two additional elevator trips. Needless to say, I get a lot of ignorant comments from people I do and don't know.
- You are huge!
- Your hips look bigger today.
- You look like you are about to pop!
- You look like you are due any day now.
- You are only six months along? Geez!
- Oh my gawd, are you having twins?
- You look like you are over being pregnant.
The problem with most of these comments is timing. I received the "huge" and "about to pop" comments when I was only in my second trimester. After I would answer with how much time I had left the "twins" question would follow. I even had one co-worker take a look at me and comment on how it "looked" like I didn't want to be at work anymore. I am pretty sure he deduced this based on my size which I found very rude; especially since I have been more than enthusiastic to be at work. The positive outlook I have had during this pregnancy has helped me to dismiss most of these comments, but I admit I have my days.
I was just talking to my husband, and he suggested that I stop working after this week. I have to admit it is pretty darn tempting. Not because I can't handle the physical aspect of work, but because it starting to become increasingly mentally draining. I am to the point in this pregnancy where people greet me with "you're still pregnant", or "you must be getting restless". The truth is that I am perfectly content with being pregnant. I am not sure why people are assuming otherwise!
Most tell me I should shrug off these comments, but I am only human. After the millionth time of hearing different variations, the comments start to wear on you. If this baby doesn't come by my "guess date" then I will definitely consider taking some "me" time to ensure that I remain positive. The last thing I want is to start getting discouraged by people who don't realize how rude their comments are.
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