That isn't an opinion that makes you ignorant

[Momma_Halo]

Growing up you heard about "players" and how they were revered by others... even their weird fathers. 

The phrase "Everyone is doing it" became popular even before my time. And people said it constantly. 

Ten years later kids are still saying it. And 15 year old boys are still chanting it. And that seems to be the norm in our society.

Yet when people meet my husband and I we are looked at funny. I respect everyone's decision to be who they are but I seem to be silly to expect the same in return.

The man I was saving myself for convinced me that our wedding wasn't too far off and maybe we should just give in. 

He canceled the wedding because of "money" right after and then the abuse, the name calling, and the cheating happened. I ended up leaving him. Broken I made a few mistakes with my body. 

And then I met my husband who was the same age. He was 21 years old and we just connected. We got to know each other and fell in love. 

One night as we were fooling around he told me he had never done this before. Even while in the middle of passion it clicked what he meant. This man who was in my arms was a virgin. I was unsure about the whole thing of taking his virginity. Unlike my ex who was so willing to take mine for some cruel sick reason I wasn't taking this lightly.

For one I felt like I wasn't worthy enough for such and honor. But a couple more months later we gave in and it felt magical. We ended up married a year later and three months after that we became pregnant.

We never told anyone about this factor until way later. And when people heard about me being his first we were met with hostility. 

"Why did you get married? Was she pregnant?"

"Maybe he is gay and that is why he waited so long?"

"And you believed that lie?

And many more questions and jabs.

Why is it when you do get married you have to be pregnant? Or you want to trap a man some how?

Why is it when a man decides he wants to wait for the right one he is gay? Or something considered unmanly? Even though I have met some rather manly gay men. Hell a gay man wrote the rules of being a man.

That is not an opinion when it comes to stuff like this. It is just someone being a jerk and not having their facts straight. 

And opinion would be "I personally do not see a point to virginity"

A jerk move is "You were a virgin because no one wanted you." 

So why even speak at all? If a man wants be a virgin then let him. Why even question it? 

[tericared]

Feb. 7, 2010 at 10:08 PM

Fantastic..........

[Momma_Halo]

Feb. 8, 2010 at 3:18 PM

Glad you enjoyed it :)

(Original Poster)

[zeenakwon]

Feb. 9, 2010 at 9:59 AM

my husband was also a virgin before me.  It's rare but it happens!