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Perspective
- Feb 9, 2010 at 1:19 PM
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Recently I wrote a Journal about a 30 year old friend that had breast cancer and double mastectomy.
Last Saturday my sister called me upset. Her 31 year old friend is in the hospital on her death bed. She came down with the flu that turned into Pneumonia. When she went into the ER and they started treating her but she turned septic. If she lives, she will probably lose her hands and feet. Her kidneys have shut down. Her blood isn't pumping to her extremities. She can't talk but she has been able to move her eyebrows. She is now bleeding from an unknown source internally.
If you are a praying person, please pray for Jenny. She has a 9 year old daughter and a husband that are counting on her to make it through.
This is why I live my life looking forward and not back. Yes life can suck. Yes it has for me in the past. I don't choose to dwell on it. I chose to move forward. I choose to thank God for those days because they make me who I am today. I want to live in the moment and for the future because I don't want to be on my death bed wishing that I had appreciated my life more. Being a "Debbie downer" and dwelling on past hurts really sucks the gifts of today away.
Christmas day our flight was delayed. My 8 year old daughter asked me why I wasn't upset like all the other people around me. I loved the question because it really was a teaching moment. I told her that I wasn't worried or stressed because it didn't accomplish anything. All it would do is hurt me. Would it make the plane board earlier? Would it it make me happier?
My faith tells me not to worry and not to look back. I never saw Jesus complain that his parents got mad at him in the temple when he was a kid. The only people that did that was the disciples about Paul and God told them to snap out of it.
My motto live and love and look forward. Sometimes looking back is okay but doing it on a regular basis only does harm. Lot's wife turned to a pillar of salt.
Sidebar: This isn't a post about insurance BUT this could have been prevented if she had insurance. She didn't go to the doctor because she didn't have insurance. She and her husband are hard working business owners. They were just building their business and couldn't afford to insure themselves. Their friends, family, and themselves are the majority of people that didn't agree with government health insurance. Most are changing their minds. People don't think it is a right until they are in a situation like this. They are not lazy nor have they ever asked for hand outs, until now. Now they are going to be millions of dollars in debt and she may not live.
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I do and I don't agree with the free health insurance. I agree because a lot of people who cant afford need it. When I was pregnant with my daughter I had no health insurance and I spent almost 7,000 I have saved to pay for most of the bills until I married and got on my husbands plan. I lost 7,000 because I couldn't get health insurance because I didn't know I was pregnant and when I tried thy said I couldn't get it due to be being pregnant and it being a previous condition. Big shock to be to find out I was pregnant and then find out i cant get health insurance. I saved that 7000 in less then a year while I was living on my own and that could have helped raise my baby. Then I don't agree with it because its taking away from the elderly. They have worked all there lives to have the government take good health insurance from them and I hate that because it's not fair and my grandmother needs that good health insurance or she'll die and if it happen while my FIL was alive he would have died because he had breast cancer and the damn insurance wouldn't continue paying for it if they take it from the elderly.
I hope your sister friend plus through, no little girl should go out with her mother and she doesn't need to suffer anymore so I hope she gets fully recovered and there a miracle so she can keep her hands and feet.
Mommy_of_two, it's not going to be free health insurance, just affordable health insurance. Also, Medicare will not be taken away from the elderly.
I appreciate the teaching moment, Rebecca. It is a useful tool to ask ourselves "What does this accomplish?" when we are feeling negative feelings.
You know if I had health ins. and or could aford it I would of went to the docs when I broke my foot instead of letting it heal on its own. 6 months later I can still feel a little pain...
Onward I'm so sorry to hear about this lady. My prayers sent for her and her family...
Good lord :( Praying for Jenny and all who love her. That is just awful....if she's a momma then she's a fighter..sending her my thoughts and energy to help her do it... Fight Jenny!
Oh, Rebecca, that's awful. I hope that she does recover. My thoughts are with her and her family.
So sorry to hear about Jenny - and my prayers are certainly with her and her family. I agree whole heartedly that this country needs to take a long hard look at the healthcare system and what is REALLY going on before they debate against one of the most significant bills that has come along in years. Most of us THINK we have the best healthcare system in the world -- think again -- ever talk to a malpractice lawyer? most of us only have access to good doctors if we have money or expensive healthy insurance. And even if you have expensive health insurance what happens when you lose your job, most of us can't afford that insurance on unemployment. Then we have to resort to either NOT going to the doctor OR going to a clinic where care is not optimal. AND if we happen to have expensive insurance there are still tests and procedures that are governed by the insurance company-- NOT the doctor, when did we let that happen??? I sure as heck don't think this current bill is perfect and I don't even know if that exists but I am sure glad SOMEONE has stood up and tackled this issue once and for all. WAKE UP people-- and stop this nonsense debating over a bill that is essential to American HUMAN life. It is tragic that we can't agree as a nation that healthcare is a problem and this is just possibly the first step towards trying to fix it.
Oh, Rebecca! That is awful!
I am truely sorry about your friend, and that she is going through that. Its alot to deal with when feeling sick, my grandma had all bleeding and kindey shut down and she had Pneumonia. She didnt have spetic thou. I hope ur friend pulls through and i will pray for her. Its not good for the body to be put on hold when your not feeling good when u dont have insurance but they should have told her that she could have been seen and got a payment plan, that what i did anyway. I wanted to long to go to the er when i had pain and i lost a child, never knew i was pregnant thou. I believe its better to take care of your self and not worry about the money too much. Cause i feel if you believe in God he will make things easier and better for u and or body. God Bless you and ur friend and her family
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