Over worked and no help

[newmommie2006]

I've been going to night class for over a year and I was with child for three month of those 12. You would think my husband would pich in with the house work....nop. So I just let the house go and just clean the girls and my clothes. I've asked him more then once to please help me out that I can't to night classes, study, and clean house, wash clothes, and cook breakfest, lunch and dinner.

I'm at the point that it feels as if I'm a single parent. Oh did I tell ya he comes home and plays on the computer.....

[NannyB.]

Feb. 9, 2010 at 4:36 PM

It sounds like he may resent that you are going to school, so I have to wonder if this was something the two of you agreed was a good idea or if you did it without his being in total agreement.  If he agreed to your going to school and to taking up the slack, then of course he should keep his end of the bargain.  Most men are just not real good at taking over the running of the household.  They can learn, but it's pretty much like teaching a child what you want done and how you want it done.  One other thing I've learned about men in 45 years of marriage is that when they feel neglected, they will bury themselves in television, computer, books, sports, whatever they are interested in.  You've got two little children and you are going to school, so I can see where he might feel like he didn't matter too much to you right now, except for what you want him to be doing to help you out.  I think you can get him to help you more, but you will probably have to change your approach!