Stop before cursing those men out ...

[sleepymamaof3]

I am one of those, and it's time to change, that suffers from depression, bipolar and anger, that has a husband who does not understand. I have whined about this, complained and bitched about this. But now, after really seeing how I am acting and treating others and myself, a lot has settled in my mind. I am not annoyed with my husband for not understanding how I feel, what I understand now is that he may never, and that is okay. He is not in my head, and honestly, half the time I do not understand why I am feeling the way I do, I just know it is how I am feeling. Now, I am grateful to this man, for being supportive. He will listen and though I may be mad that he doesn't let me just cry on his shoulder, I am thankful that he does not. He will tell me that it is okay to cry, but I can not live my life crying. He makes me laugh, when I want to cry and don't know why. But when I cry and have something to say, have a reason to explain my tears, he will rub my head and listen while I talk between sobs. He may not always understand my rambling of feelings and thoughts, but he does listen.

And I think that there are many of us that are the same way as me. We get mad, but why? Yes, there are some men who really are not there for some of us, that don't want to listen and want to ignore how we feel, but there are many great men that we do not give enough praise to, for being there the best way they know how to, when they do not understand what we are going through, because they have never been through anything like it themselves.

So next time you want to curse out your man, stop and think first; is this his way of helping, of being supportive or does he not care and is ignoring the whole situation? I may not always like how my hubby supports me with all of my mixed emotions lately, but I understand now why he does it the way he does, because it is the only way he knows how to. And I am happy, proud and grateful for him trying.