Does Anyone Care...or Have the Time to?

[AislinnAsparas]

Maybe I'm the only one who is sensing this, but I've noticed that the level of participation here at CM has decreased.  Or maybe its how folks participate that has changed.

I first came on board with CM almost at the beginning -- under a different name as I moved and things changed.  But anyway, folks were very active, interested in others, active in groups...I seldom went a day w/out a comment or thought from someone on my chatterbox or a comment to a comment that I had made.  I commented on others comments as well...made some great connections with other moms...

Now, I see lots of "replies" to posts but little interaction past that -- kinda like everyone answers but no one is reading other answers.

I'm not trying to be judgemental here -- I'm just thinking things have changed -- including my perception.  Maybe the excitement has run its course...maybe everyone has more kids and are just busier.  Maybe there are other sites that are more interesting to moms.

I work now -- which I didn't when I first was a CM user.  That does make a difference in my participation -- so I'm also a "lesser" user.

What are your thoughts here?  Have you noticed a difference?  Do you read others posts? Do you participate? Do you care much anymore?  Am I making sense?

[CheshireHope]

Feb. 20, 2010 at 1:55 PM

i've noticed it too.

i have disappeared and came back. before it was fight after fight over religion/pro-life/choice, formula vs breastfeeding, spanking vs child abuse...

i took the time off once i out tired of the fighting. when i came back 3 months later... cm seemed dead...

i'll reply to others try to give them some insight from my point or from where i had been in a spot sort of like theirs but. cm has become quieter.

[caitxrawks]

Feb. 20, 2010 at 2:05 PM

I've made it my mission to be more active in more POSITIVE endeavors on the site. I'm a member of a religious debate group, but we're all very mature people, it's not a catty childish group like Newcomer's is.

I'm also active in Answers and Journals. I suppose it all depends on what you're looking for and where you look : /

[mistynights234]

Feb. 20, 2010 at 2:44 PM

I think its like a new relationship.......your on your best behavior, always complimenting. 

Its fun and new. 

You look forward to seeing them. 

Then you get to know them alittle more.  You relax and are yourself. 

Pretty soon things start getting on your nerves.  You get tired of being agreeable.  You speak your mind alittle more. 

You slow down on the phone calls and going out.  Pretty soon you realize that you were just fine before you met them and you will be fine without them. 

You will still remain friends, talk every once in awhile .........:).  Sound familiar?  I think that the love affair with Cafe Mom is getting put on the back burner for alot of people.  LOL

[faithnlove99]

Feb. 20, 2010 at 7:51 PM

i agree with u

[JessicaRena]

Feb. 20, 2010 at 11:05 PM

I agree. I have tried to connect with other moms and its like they just do not care. I think cm is quite as well. I try to reply to everyone and read as much of the posts and journals as I can. And when I do always reply.