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7 months pregnant with #2 and single.... huh.
- Feb 21, 2010 at 10:43 AM
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So here i am... 7 months pregnant and single again.... this is my second child. My first is 4 1/2 and i had her when i was 18. She was the best thing that could ever happen to me.. her dad and i mutually decided that it was best we weren't together.. we were going down different paths... his career was still #1 while my daughter was everything to me... My daughters dad and i are still friends and i still miss him sometimes but i know that we won't be together again and i'm ok with that.
I'm pregnant with a boy this time around and while i didn't want him at first i'm soo excited about meeting him now. His dad and i are not together either and this time it was solely my decision.. we were not together very long at all... i got pregnant like a month into our "relationship". Him and I were not at all compatible. I'm a very laid back goofy person while he takes EVERYTHING seriously... i just couldn't do it anymore... i tried for a few months because i was pregnant, i kept think that I'm going to be a single mom with 2 kids and 2 baby daddies... that's not me. I've only slept with 4 people in my life and now I'm going to look like some low life whore who makes babies for the hell of it... i could NOT get away from these thoughts... it was horrible, but I just couldn't do it... he's not a bad guy.. he never treated me or my daughter badly but i just didn't like him. i tried, i did, but i found myself trying to make myself go to bed before he came home so i wouldn't have to talk to him or if we both had a day off from work i'd pick up an extra shift so i wouldn't have to be with him... so i decided it was enough.
I still feel really bad but i think i've gotten better... i do well by myself. i work and take care of what i have too and i will with this baby too. He says he'll be there when the baby is born and for now i believe him but i don't count on it. I've put money aside for when i'm not working after he's born and i'm going back to school shortly after to better myself for my kids... i know i can do it by myself that not the issue, i just wonder what other people think of me when they see me... 24 (in august) yo with 2 kids and 2 baby daddies... i don't know.
Feel free to ask question i don't take anything offensively.
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who cares what people say honey? you are doing whats right for you and your babies. i totally applaud you for not staying with someone you don't want to be with just because you are pregnant. hope things go great and congrats on the boy :)
You don't have to explain the circumstances of your children's birth or your position. Only the rudest people will openly assume that you have two "baby daddies" and you don't owe them any explanation. Yeah, you'll be judged. We all are. Just don't put any stock into it because the negative judgements will most likely be baseless.
girl stuff happens! as long as your kids are taken care of, happy, and you are happy forget what everyone else thinks! Heck you can be married, w/ kids and ppl will still have something to say...i hear it all the time! You can't live a good life always thinking negatively and/or what someone else says or thinks...The only opinion that should matter is that of yourself..
WHO cares about what people THINK or say honey?!? com'on... its the 21st century.... its nobodys business.... keep that in mind girl! proud of u for knowing" WHAT U WANT" u dont wanna be those man's u been with ... so there u go ,IT WAS UR CHOICE ..... doesnt in it make u feel INDEPENDENT. Being a single mom is never easy, so u dont owe anybody an apology or think BAD about having 2 kids w/ two different father! go girl.... take care of urself & ur kids cuz they're all u got=)
i wouldnt care what anyone thinks about you, all thats matters is what you think of yourself. You dont even have to tell people they have two daddies, let the people who know, know and they people who dont dont. It's no ones business. As long as your being the best mom you can be and love your children thats what should matter. Remember this quote. "The people who care don't matter and the people who matter, don't care"
You know, now that you mention it, I didn't like my now DH during either of my pregnancies and though I would be better off without him. Apparently I changed my mind in there some where. lol.
who cares what other people think. dont let it bother you. you wouldnt want your kids to see that it bothers you.
lol and i too have had times where i didnt like my dh during all of my pregnancies!
how on earth can you believe you are gonna look like a low life whore? LOL momma i have 3 boys by 3 babys daddys. so bite me on that one! unless you really did SELL YOUR BODY FOR MONEY you are not a whore.
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