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Observations again
- Mar 3, 2010 at 11:55 AM
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There are many great people around cafemom. I have gotten to know a few here and there. I am more of a lurker than a poster. I am this way in life too.
Observing people is what I like best. I pick up wonderful parenting tips for my sweet boy by watching others. Life is interesting when you pay attention.
I have noticed that the internet is a magnet for some strong personalities. People that have no power in life, suddenly feel a great surge of power. They might be mild manner in life but given the anonymity of the internet they post horrid things.
In my groups I see people crush one another with hateful words and spitefulness. Then other people forge strong relationships that can last years if not a lifetime.
I have seen in the journal section so much sadness and strife. I have also noticed that you can't always believe it when people say they are sick or their kids are sick. You go back and read their inconsistencies. It is pathetic.
Then there are those that seem to preach at me all the time. They will one moment be talking about how great they are by doing xyz and the next minute be spewing hate thinly veiled in fake goodness. The fact is that anyone that is a watcher can see right through these people. If you truly have given something up to God you don't keep going back to it. God is love and forgiveness not fights and insult with your peers. You pray for those you don't like and you make it up. If that person doesn't listen you bring it to church elders. You don't post about it on the internet.
Venting. Venting is fine but usually is done to one friend or family member. It isn't behaving badly with false modesty.
All of the above I vote down, not out of malice but out of disgust for maliciousness. I will continue to do so because I know who they are. Several have a reputation in many groups. Maybe you need medication. Maybe you are on medication but you need more help. Just quit trying to pretend.
Then I see people send cards to a sick little boy. That out reach was refreshing.
I see people post about the love of their groups and friendships. I recently saw one woman just send love to (what seemed to be) random friends around cafemom.
I see a lot of education posts. They don't come from the side of judgement but information.
I have seen a woman who is grieving the loss of a marriage. She is loved by many.
I have seen a post that was a pseudo Amber Alerts.
The question section gives me a headache. I see people ask about affairs, sex, and some things that I am sure are made up.
Then there are really good questions that I believe help those that need help.
Comments:
You are a very observant, practical and intelligent woman! Thank you for making CafeMom a better place to be!
I voted this up. Great post!
This made me smile. =0) I like watching too, and I know many of the stories of which you speak. The good ones and the bad ones.
It's a shame when the good ones are drowned out.
It is amazing what people will do online. Things that never would be done in real life. It is sad that these people don't have anything better to do than make things up to get some attention. Thanks for making this post.
I wish that you would post more! You seem to be the type of person I came here to meet.
You are right on spot.
i'm with you and briarraindancer on this one. sad.
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I really like this post :o) Glad I stopped to read it. I too question only SOME of the stories on here. I hope for the most part the Moms are posting true stories. I trust my friends (Most of them) as I know them personally or know of someone who does and get PM about times, dates,and places of the stories.It seems as all the "nasty Moms" stick together and the"loving Moms" just keep spreading love.
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