VENTING..... TRYING TO CALM DOWN SO I DON'T GO INTO LABOR

[momof386]

Why is it that men have to cause so much problems?  Last month, my daughter's dad and his girlfriend told me that they "felt more comfortable" if my daugther lived with them. Well today, I decided to tell her dad that we are not changing the living arrangements after five years. For five GD years I have been the one who has been taking care of her. I have put myself last just so she and her two brothers can have what they want/need. Now that I'm pregnant with number four, which was a big surprise by the way, I'm being punished. He doesn't take care of her his F=ing girlfriend does. All because he doesn't want anymore kids and she does. He even told me that he wants her to live with him because I "can't" take care of my kids. I told him since he wants to change the stupid living arrangement, which has been fine up till a month ago, he can take me to court. I have been stressed out about it all day that I have been getting contractions off and on. I'm not even due till May 31. I just pisses me off that  every time that she had to go to the hospital I was the one who took her. He would becasue " HE NEEDED HIS SLEEP"

Why punish me for getting pregnant again? We didn't even find out that I WAS pregnant till I was almost six months along. Me and my fiance were told that we had miscarried with my daughter. I am sick and tired of being the bigger person. I have never gotten into trouble with the law. He's in trouble like every other month with them. I am going to college. Granted it's online but still. He has like a tenth or eleveth grade level. I never go out with my friends i'm home EVERY night. The last time I actually went out on the  town was in September. He actually was at the bar last night with my damn sister. But yet i'm the one who can't take care of their kids.

OMG.... I SERIOUSLY WISH I COULD JUST TELL HIM THAT SHE'S NOT HIS SO I DIDN'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIS STUPID ASS, but that would be a lie and than what would I be teaching my daughter, after I've told her it's wrong to lie.     sigh. stupid drama.

[Bellarose014]

May. 10, 2010 at 6:45 AM

My dear Friend,

First of all, you have to calm down, take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Second of all, stop letting him push your buttons. He knows that you are better than he will ever be and you are trying to make life better, so that just proves your point over and over again that you are BETTER then he will ever be. Third, you know that you are a good mom, so be PROUD of that and never and I mean NEVER let him make you feel that you are not. No judge will give him the child, not when you are making a positive and healthy environment for your child.  So lay down and rest for a bit, breath in slow and easy and know that you will have a beautiful new baby soon and you will ALWAYS be the better person then your ex and that just irritates the hell out of him lol. Love to the kids and blessed be to you and yours.