Grief!

[bgdvil]

 What would you do if you lost your child? Not a question you want to think about, its a question no parent should have to answer.  It has been 14 months since we lost our 7 year old son to a accident.  However he is not all I've lost. I would keep telling myself it can't get worse.  It can though. 

Time just keeps going everyone around you picks up and moves on with there lives.  Everyone experiences grief differently.  They say there is no right or wrong, way to grief. I think "they" are people who tell you all the things that your suppose to say when someone passes on. However there is a so called right way.  After time your suppose to be able to pick up where live kind of left of.  Being a mother to your other children, being the caregiver, being the wife. 

At this present time I am none of the above. A part of my very soul, my personal existance died next to him that day.

[MaryScent2008]

Apr. 2, 2010 at 2:47 AM

I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you.I have a 30 year old son and a 25 year old daughter,and I cannot imagine your pain.My only wish for you is to please pray that God helps you with acceptance of this horrible loss.God Bless,Mary

[sati769leigh]

Apr. 2, 2010 at 3:09 AM

I dont see a way to say what is right or wrong in grieving. its been 14 years for me...................

[mimilinda]

Apr. 2, 2010 at 8:07 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. My daughters are 30 and 27 and I feel like you .  If something were to happen to them my life would just be incomplete. I am praying for God will give you the courage and strength to accept this tragic loss.  My heart truely does go out to you.  I hope I will never have to go through what you have....

[TakeNoticeNow]

Apr. 2, 2010 at 10:45 AM

Just thinking about the possibility of losing my son ( age 8) brings such a deep sadness in my soul . I don't think any one who has not experianced the deep pain of losing  a child could ever truly know what you go through on a daily basis. Grief is definately a personal thing and so many people have these awful cliche's "time will heal " etc. I hope that you have a support group of others who have had to live with the pain of losing a child. I wish for you the strength to carry on, and honor your son everyday.

[Lb128f]

Apr. 2, 2010 at 11:06 AM

I'm so sorry. I know that Symon would be sad to know you are hurting...I'm sure he is with you daily. Still, I can certainly understand why you feel the way you do. My Brother lost his Daughter (16) in a vehicle accident and his grief has been immeasurable.

Have you contacted Compassionate Friends?http://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx I do think it is helpful to seek grief counseling. If you haven't -- I hope you will.

And, there is a Mom on here who lost her son (Andrew) in an auto accident...she too is having a really difficult time dealing with the loss and could use a friend who understands. I'll PM you her name.

I'll be saying a prayer for you.