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What the hell did I do to make them hate me so much?!
- Apr 2, 2010 at 4:37 PM
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I was 16 when i got pregnant and I moved from NY to FL to live with my baby's father. He is now my DH and we have been married for 4 yrs, have 2 beautiful children and we are extremely in need of help, financially.
However, when I ask for help, they are constantly saying "We'll see what we can do".
Yet, when my sister who is 10 yrs older then me, single with 1 kid asks for money, its always "Sure Honey"
WTF?
Not only is it about the money help, its about help in general.
My sister lived with my parents for along time after her divorce and they watched her kid ALL the time! For free none the less.
When my parents came to visit me after my 1st child was born, I really needed a shower. I asked my mom to watch him for 10minutes so I could take a shower. She told me " NO. You need to learn to do it by yourself"
Again.. WTF?
I ask for help and don't get it. My sister who has a GREAT job and cheap rent asks for help, she gets it.
My parents have since moved to NC and my sister lives like 2 hrs from me in Fl. She is thinking about moving to NC so she can have my parents watch her kid. Because, Day cares to expensive :(
CRY ME A FUCKING RIVER!
She acts like she is helpless yet I am the one jobless and struggling beyond belief. She gets all the help.
My parents also CALL HER AND HER DAUGHTER every NIGHT!
I talk to them like once a month! They don't care about my kids or me as much as they do my sister.
AND IT HURTS!
What did I do wrong?
Was it the teen pregnancy? Was it because I moved away and got married at 16? Was it because I didn't get divorced due to a cheating husband so I don't have their sympathy?
WHY? Why do they hate me so? What the hell did i ever do.
It doesn't hurt me as much when they say they cant help when I know they can.
What hurts the most, is my kids. They know we cant afford groceries. They know we are broke and cant give them things they need all the time. Yet they cant lend 30 bucks for groceries?
And the fact that they never call them?! Why won't you call my kids? Are they not as important as my neice?? I hate this!
WTF! I'm so pissed. I'll type more once this mood surpasses.
Comments:
My friend has the same problem. I think its because you have a husband and they think you dont "need" them. Kind of like you have a husband, you were able to live without them then how come not now? Just a guess from what my friend is going through and what her mom told her when she asked.
I'm sorry. I agree with NannyB. ASK! Tell them you have noticed the difference and ask why! I hope you'll find some answers!
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Have you ever asked them? It might help you feel better to just tell them that you notice they treat you differently and tell them you would like to know if you have done or said something for which you need to apologize. It takes a mighty big person who ask that kind of question, and you should only do it if you think you can handle the answer, no matter how ugly it might be. In truth, you cannot change other people, even if they are family. Sometimes we have to just accept what is and have ourselves a good life without them. If you need a little extra cash, look around your neighborhood for someone who needs help and ask if they would be willing to pay you to help them. It's spring, so maybe someone needs a little help with cleaning up around the house or the yard. Just look for the possibilities!
- NannyB.
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