Maybe because I am expecting boy #2, or maybe because I am the sole female in my house of dudes, but I have penis on the brain. More specifically- circumcision. Rare is the day that I find myself agreeing (and wholeheartedly too) with the 'anti- circ' campaign. But that day has come.

It has come to my attention that.... some women circumsize because they think  that it 'looks better'. What? Have you SEEN a penis? It's a darn penis- it doesn't matter what way you cut it... that penis is still going to look (and act) like a freaking penis. And let me tell you something... I think that we can all say that we have never sat back and said 'My Gawd, what an amazing, astounding, beautiful gorgeous penis that is!' or 'I bet you could win a beauty contest with that thing!'.

Lets face it, when God or evolution formed the male reproductive organ and liquid waste remover... they certainly did NOT have looks in mind. That bad boy is almost strictly for utility purposes. When things are dubbed 'The One Eyed Monster', I think we can all agree that when we look at it, if we faint it most likely isn't from gazing upon beauty in it's perfection. Not saying that we wont be blown over by the thought of what that big boy could DO or make us FEEL, but that's a little different from looks.

I think that we can all agree that really... a penis is best described as- different. It certainly doesn't look HORRIBLE, but it's not exactly the shape of something you want tacked up in your living room. There was so much more to the whole 'David' thing then just his wiener, you know? That guy had a perfectly sculpted body but certainly womans gaze rested on his face, amazing abs, and gorgeously sculpted arse before giggling wildly at the fact that we could see his 'naughty bits' in full view.

So really, when we say that we are going to circumcise our sons because it 'looks' better... how far are we going down that road? How often do we see a penis where we need to be concerned with it's looks ANYWAYS? Again, I think the majority of the time an average woman is going to see one is going to be during some act of utility. Sure, while doin' it you may fully appreciate all the in's and outs of your mans body... but are you really going to sit there for hours staring at his wanker going 'Oh my, it's the prettiest thing I have ever seen.' Not hardly. And then of course if your a MOTHER you could probably care less what you son is carrying around in his pants along as it is healthy, clean, and functioning properly. It's not like you comb your sons hair, brush his teeth, make sure he is wearing a matching outfit, and check to make sure his penis is looking it's best before sending him off to school. After all (even if his looks in his pants were that big of a deal- what are odds that during the day anyone other then himself is going to get an eye full anyway?

And then we stumble onto the heart of the 'I removed a part of your body so you would look more beautiful' argument. What right do we as parents have to do something purely for cosmetic reasons without the consent of the individual when those cosmetic factors wont really come into play until the individual is really old enough to make THAT decision on their own anyways? I'm not talking about locker room reactions here (although I don't think that is a vry big issue anyway, since if someone noticed a difference, they would have to be looking....), or the desire to have all the male members of the household look the same. How would you feel if your mother decided that baby girls look better with plumper lips, and injected yours without your consent because she 'thought it looked gross without it'. What if that change affected your breasts, or your vagina- purely for 'looks'? I'm pretty sure that you would be saying 'How did you think that you had the right to alter ME, MY BODY, for LOOKS?'

Look there are many good, valid arguments for (or against) circumsicion that should really be wieghed and considered. I only as, as an idividual, that you think about what consequences your actions will have on the individual you plan on doing them too. How you would respond if someone took those actions against YOUR body, without your consent, for YOUR reasons.

In the end- a penis, will always look like a penis. We really can't change that, nor should we be trying to. EVERY body is beautiful, complete and incomplete it should be appreciated for what it is. Some parts drop dead gorgeous... other parts deserving of a little covering up, not the removal of.

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Toddl...
Apr. 6, 2010 at 2:27 PM

This is a great post, Sharon! I have to say that "because it looks better" is the absolute lamest reason I have EVER heard for circumcising a baby boy. No matter what side of the circumcision debate you are on, just do your research and make your decision based on education, not cosmetics!

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evwsq...
Apr. 6, 2010 at 3:25 PM

I was somewhat embarrassed reading this! (Of course, the fact that I'm at work probably has something to do with that.)

Excellent, and very true, points.

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wendy...
Apr. 6, 2010 at 4:11 PM

Yes a penis is usually an ugly thing.  i've seen ones that look good -- FOR a penis, but otherwise it still looks like a freaking penis.  Cosmetic reasons are just plain done.  

For the same reason I haven't pierced my little girls ears, because its not my choice!  if i have a little boy, then cutting his penis is not my choice, either.  

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DestM...
Apr. 6, 2010 at 4:28 PM

My husband was explaining to our son last night that a woman's body is beautiful and even women appreciate it but not many folks want to see a man totally nekkid.  Yes, he learned that from me.

I agree, the "it'll look better" is a really poor reason to circ a young man.  I won't start the debate in your thread.  I'm sure others will fall in and fire it up. lol

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autie...
Apr. 7, 2010 at 7:29 AM

It never dawned on me to circ my boys b/c it "looked better". That thought never entered my mind at all. I'm actually taken aback that people circ for that reason only. Wow.

I circ'd all of my boys for health reasons. My FIL and DH have the same medical condition with their penis and urinary tract. Circ-ing may correct the problem, but there is a possibility of surgery at 10 years old - which cir-ing would happen if surgery happened.

I've always been on the fence about it, but having a genetic medical condition is out of my hands, so we did what we felt would be less painful in the long run... at least, we hope that none of them will need a repeat surgery. Good post, though!

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ycats...
Apr. 7, 2010 at 9:59 AM

Yep-a penis is a penis is a penis any day of the week. Cut, uncut-they are all penises. Great post.

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buzzvibe
Apr. 7, 2010 at 10:03 AM

Great post! I enjoyed reading it. :)

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jlizgar
Apr. 7, 2010 at 10:20 AM

I think eventually the practice will go by the wayside, at least I sure hope it will....many insurance companies arent covering the costs of the procedure anymore because they consider it an elective COSMETIC procedure, not a medically necessary procedure.

Neither of my 2 boys are circ'd (hubbys idea actually!) and we have never had a single problem at all and I dont anticipate any problems either. Im very happy and proud of my choice! Wish more parents would choose to leave there boys penis alone at birth, its not something  that needs to be fixed, its perfect the way it is!

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Rhond...
Apr. 7, 2010 at 10:22 AM

Well said.  Chopping off part of the penis to make it look better is just stupid.  Routine infant circumcision should be made illegal, nobody should have the right to mutilate another persons genitals.

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AAsmo...
Apr. 7, 2010 at 10:26 AM

OMG that was great, thanks for the laugh during this rough morning. What you said is absolutly true.. I'm saving this and making my SO read it!

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