My frustration has boiled over....

[Mommy2seven]

 

As of today I fired my dishwashers.. My 18 yr old daughter and my 19 almost 20 yr old step-daughter neither one of them can manage to clean the kitchen right!  I have posted 'how to' notes all over the place and they still refuse to follow them.  I take this as being down right disrespectful!  Because I pay for their cell phones, they have food, they get money every now and then and they have a place to sleep!  Its so freaken frustrating so I Fired them!  And after June I will no longer pay for their phone! 

Now the only problem is dad doesn't complain as much about his daughter and all his daughter does is complain about my daughter , I just want to pull my hair out!  But in the end I will get my way I'm sure!  I really feel these girls need to get their priorities together and see that nothing is free and if you don't follow the rules you don't have anything you want in life!  We are not rich people and having a cell phone is a privilege that I don't even have! so why should they, especially when they don't do what we ask and do it how we want it!  Is that too much to ask for?  They only have dishes 3 nights a week and we have a freaken dishwasher I mean come on its not like they have to walk a mile to get water, heat it up and make their own soap.. shhessh.

Things in this house are about to change and I know I'm going to come off as the bitch of the house but I don't care cause after all this is my house right?!

So today I am concentrating on the kitchen, getting it cleaned and re-organized cause nothing is in its right place, the counters are not wiped down, and the stove is a mess..

I know some might think I'm being ungrateful but when I have to go and spend an hour re-cleaning the kitchen whats the point in  having them do this chore?

[mmoleader]

Apr. 22, 2010 at 1:07 PM

 This is the way it is in my ouse too these days. Only kids are 8 and 5 and I am tired of being a maid. So as of today actually I will no longer take care of their animals, they are going to clear the table after dinner and pick up their rooms (which they have done for a while). Along with that they are going to get a random weekend chore ie clean the bathroom, clean up dog poo, sweep the kitchen, or weed or something like that.

I think in the long run it will make happier kids that actually know how to do stuff! Also if they want a toy we are no longer going to just buy it they are going to earn the money....it might make them think twice about always begging for stuff.

[Mommy2seven]

Apr. 22, 2010 at 2:34 PM

Good luck hun, I start all my kids young and it still hasn't gotten through to them ugh... what am I doing wrong !!!! I think it has to do how I handle everything... so that I need to change especially since I have the younger boys and they need to know that I'm not a push over!!  Thanks for reading my journal hun!

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[ladyluke2007]

Apr. 22, 2010 at 2:39 PM

OK, I hear ya!  I understand completely what you are saying.  I have 2 daughters that could do more than what they do, and when they do something, like you, I have to go back and clean over it.  David is 13 and rarely does dishes, but when he does, the kitchen looks like an adult did it.  Tosha - 17 and Becca - 15 don't clean near as well.  I also have a dish washer.   How stinken hard is it to rise off the dishes and add them to the dish washer?  A lot, I guess.  It has gotten so I don't even like asking them any more.  Because I always have to go over it. 

I know you are mad, but PLEEEEAAAAZZZZZZZZ, don't over stress yourself . 

Love ya,

Blessings,

[hammondx9]

Apr. 22, 2010 at 4:51 PM

I agree with you completely girl......i have the same problem here. i don't expect the kids to do the job perfect but i do expect them to put forth some effort (( sigh ))   , seems like an up hill battle at times.

i think your right though....good luck !

[Mommy2seven]

Apr. 22, 2010 at 5:24 PM

Thanks ladies... and Trish don't worry I'm not stressing myself out over this.. I'm just mad lol..

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