sisters, and drama

[LAVISHMOM777]

 I am coming out of a stage of grief and feeling lighter about the tragedy, because I have to let go and move on.  I thought that I would reach out to my sister on facebook I have not seen or heard from her in years. I helped her through a difficult time in her life and poof she vanished.  After reaching out to her, she blocked me from her page, she does not want her children to talk to me on facebook, nor does she want to reach out to my family.  I have not spoken with her since 1994, she went into hiding, she only let certain people know where she was. I am clueless, she has always been mean  , I thought that she changed.  Please give me some feedback

[Lb128f]

Apr. 24, 2010 at 4:11 AM

I'm sorry. I know that must hurt a lot! :( I'm sorry to say this...but, it sounds like you haven't missed out. Some people related by blood are just that...only siblings because they have the same parents...not, friends. I think you are much too nice to have to deal with that kind of BS.

[karriewren]

Apr. 24, 2010 at 4:12 AM

I wish I could give you some good advice but I am in  about the same situation. I have a brother I haven't seen or heard from since i was fifteen. I'm 51 now. I still think of him now and then and the mischeif we got in  when we were kids.If it weren't for the few memories I still hold of him I would have nothing left of him.

all I can say is don't give up

[MSugarKane]

Apr. 24, 2010 at 8:05 AM

I guess , 'dont' give up' additude .   I have a sister that refused to talk to me, see me or my adult children and would not tell me why, (still hasn't ) for over 25 years even though I postal wrote her many letters.  She blocked my Emails.  I haven't a clue why she is upset at all.   Now occassionally we see each other at family events and she acts like nothing ever happened?  But they are far and few in-between.   I do send her birthday cards and Holiday cards every year.   She sent me a birthday card last year.  That is about all I have gotten from her.   Family is strange! Is all I can say

[truthrowan]

Apr. 25, 2010 at 2:06 AM

My older sister cut all contact with our family (highly dysfunctional) when I was 12. She was 22.  I heard from her again when I was 20. She wanted nothing to do with the rest of the family. Our father, whom we all had reason to hate, died when I was ten. She still hates our mother, other sister, oldest brother. I tried to build a relationship with her, but had a hard time. We had nothing in common. The age difference, and the fact that she grew up when dad and Mom where the biggest threats while I grew up when our oldest brother was, made for a huge difference. I could forgive our mom, she her perspective. My sister could not. Things were tense and difficult, made even harder by the birth of my oldest son. She had fertility problems, and here I was with a baby. We spoke rarely, and I always felt like she would have been happier if she had not found me, like I was a disappointment to her. Then I informed her of our sisters pregnancy, and her response was so negative, I couldn't tell her about my own second pregnancy. Time went by, and it was much harder to tell her at 5 months when I couldn't tell her at 3. My son is now 8 months old. I haven't spoken to my sister in over a year.  I wish I could advise you, but at least you know I'm in a similar boat.