I didn't breastfeed exclusively.
I was induced, by choice, three of four deliveries.
I had the epidural every time.
I do not regret nor feel like I have to defend my choices. I will not apologize for the choices I made to anyone... except to the people it most directly involved, and that would be my children, and ONLY if there were a reason to apologize to them for it.
So far, there hasn't been one.
I am not a bad mother, a neglectful mother, a stupid mother, a lame mother, an uneducated mother, and I won't tolerate being called one.
I don't care if people agree with my choices or not; really, really.
My reasons for doing what I did and how I did it are extremely personal and absolutely nobody's business. I do not feel the need to explain those reasons to anyone, except possibly my children, should they one day ask.
I am a firm believer that women should educate themselves before they even get pregnant about their options, and once they ARE pregnant, make educated choices for how they want to labor and deliver and feed their babies. I am not going to tell anyone how to do it, or that they suck for doing it differently than the way I did it.
The way I did it WORKED BEST FOR ME. No one else can tell me differently, because they were not there, were not involved in any of the decision making processes, had no idea how I felt or what I did to prepare myself for my impending deliveries.
I am sick and tired of the judgement, on ALL sides, of the defensive attitudes, of the idea that one way is best for everyone. I am tired of people ASSuming that I somehow missed out on something by choosing to deliver the way I chose to deliver, that I didn't bond with my children because I had the audacity to not breastfeed exclusively, that my experience was somehow less rewarding or less real or just less because I am a woman who induced, epidural-ed, formula fed.
I have to ask you- how do you like me NOW?