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A mommy in distress
- May 23, 2010 at 6:51 PM
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I haven't been on Cafemom for awhile. I really need to have some support. Tuesday is the day I find out if my oldest has a chromosome disorder too. We have been having hard core issues with him and his bowel movements. He was having accidents in his pants for a long time. I tried everything with him. Rewards and punishments did not work. He did not stop. So we ( pardon me I) took him to the GI clinic. He has been in treatment there since December. WELLLL the doctor wanted him tested for PTEN ( like dd has) because that disorder can cause colon polyops.(sp) The doctor also said this because they cannot find a reason why he is still pooping and peeing his pants. SIGH! His colon does not have anything " backed up" So now off to the behavior clinic. Because we have to rule everything out.
He has no problem about going in his pants. He does not care about having to wash his underwear or not have any time on his DS. He does not care about missing storytime or not playing outside. Or for the second summer I promised him a guinea pig if he stopped.
Which leads me to my second bout of stress. I am supporting this family on my fast food salary and my dd's ssi. I was always I mean always against getting money for my kids' disablities. Now I am battling if I apply for ds too. I cannot afford the two cases of pullups for him a month. I am totally at my wits end. I am the one that takes everyone to the doctor. I am the one that makes the appointments. I cook and clean and do the grocery shopping.
I am stuck in a one way marriage. My dh sits at home and promises that he will get a job. Funny he has been unemployed for 8 months and hasn't had a interview for 7. I am going to have to get a second job. The kids need winter clothes and we have Christmas too. I don't know what to do. I am so entirely sick of him sitting at home and seeing how stressed I am. Then not doing anything! I ask him to do something and he won't do it. Then later he acts like a teenager and rolls his eyes.
I don't have any family that speaks to me. His family is awful. They treated me horribly when I was in the hospital with my dd. I don't know what to do. I feel like he isn't a help to me at all. If I ask him how we are going to get money for something. He will say his " job" he doesn't apply! How can he keep doing this to me and our family? If he loves us how come he is so unwilling to keep us together?
He says one reason is because we don't have a car. Funny I work and don't have a car. I walk everywhere. I even take the laundry six blocks in a wagon twice a week to do.
I guess one reason why I am venting so much is that my health is failing. I have dizzy spells, my feet hurt so bad and swell. Just recently my face has begun to twitch too. I feel like I am going to end up in the hospital and what is going ot happen with my kids? Are they going to starve because he is too damn lazy to make a meal?
Please give advice. Anything negative will get deleted.
Comments:
I am sorry for all you are going through, and it seems everything is on you. Your husband needs to understand all the stress you are under. He needs to understand that if you both worked together then things would be easier on you. Maybe try and sit down and tell him of your feelings and your emotions, if anything your feelings should matter to him. It is unfair that everything should fall onto you. I hope and pray things will get better. If you need a friend or someone to listen you can message me. Hang in there, and know God will give you the strength to get through some of your toughest times.
thank u ladies I really need someone to talk too
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