heading towards the "D" word

[kcd78]

so the dh and i have been having a few problems. I am doing my extern or intern however you wanna look at it. bottom line is I am doing 40 hours per week of free work. but then again I have been going to school for the last 15 months and i have not worked one day . the thing is now that i am towards the very end he wants to start some bs. talking about how he pays all the bills and if it werent for him where would i be. the thing that really upsets me is the fact that i was the one doing all the work NOT him. i went to work 70 hours a week did the laudry cook the meals cleaned the house got the kids ready for school and for bed helped out with homework and still had time to have sex with him. Now where is this all coming from. i mean i thought that marriage was about give and take but lately i have been feeling as if he doesnt even like me. i love him with all my heart and soul but when is enough enough. he complains about everything that i do rather i am right or wrong (which in his mind seems to daily now) so I guess my question is when is it time to start planning for a divorce?

[myoceanwaves]

May. 26, 2010 at 11:10 AM

I tend to think people just don't pick a day to have issues with everything. There's usually something, an event, a conversation, something that causes an unpleasant feeling and it becomes the reason for other behaviors. It seems that his attitude kind of changed all of a sudden. The question is, what changed in him? Perhaps getting to the root of the issue could help you understand how things got to where they are now and how to make them better. Even if what changed in him is that he no longer wants to be married, or you made an off hand comment to him , at least you know. I'm a fan of working through things but when all else fails realize that it's possible to be a better person when you're not together.