professional advice please!! please help!!

[beckybooboo]

I'm so hoping this post reaches someone who can really help.

Here's the story:

I have a cousin who lives with my grandmother. My grandfather passed away in January and my grandmother is super weak. My cousin who is 25 exhibits a behavior of aspergers syndrome. If you know what this is, then hopefully you can help us.

As i said he lives with my grandmother, he's lived there since he was born. My aunt left him there when she finally got married. then when she divorced and remarried he never came with her so all he's known is living with my retired grandparents. He did well in school and went on to college, but in that first year of college he was kicked out because he slept too much and never went to class. So all he's never known is my grandpaerents house, he's never gotten a job, never learned to drive a car, only has a few friends who i think the majority are online. He barely leaves the house to even check the mail. He has never helped in the yard, shovel snow, unless he was in the mood, or done anything that a 25 soon to be 26 year old should have done by now. Most of the fault is due to my grandparents sheltering, he has only known living the life of an elderly retired person.

I spent 6 weeks taking care of my grandmother after my grandfather passed away and realized he rationalizes and understands and pretty much communicates somewhere between and 10 and 16 year old. The rest of the family think he's just a jerk and he does and says things totally intentionally. The family want him gone, but his mother and he thinks he's staying there to "take care" of my grandmother. Which we can't even trust him to do that, so my sister moved in to take care of my grandmother.

What i want to know is if there is any way to have a counselor speak with him or maybe even the state evaluate him. He thinks he can take care of things, but he barely can take care of himself. He has a big Obsessive compulsive Disorder. IF anything is out of place he literally freaks out. So the death of my grandfather and the family coming over to clean out the house of all the things he gpa "collected" really almost put him over the edge. I was told if I hadn't been there to help him get thru it and rationalize everything he wouldn't have been able to handle it.

If anyone can help or give any advice I'd love to hear it. If you need any additional info lemme know.

[Cat_P]

May. 30, 2010 at 7:23 PM

Are there a mental health services in your city? If you contact them, they will know exactly what to do :)

Hope this helps!