I know it's unfair to always expect him to do all the romancing and being sweet but what if you are ALWAYS the one doing it? His idea of romance is asking "you wanna do it?" That's not romantic!! For mothers day he did nothing but got me a butterfinger bar when he went up to the store to get parts for his car! We've been together for 4 years now and we never even sit on the same couch as eachother anymore! It's like pulling teeth to get him to cuddle at all and that's all we did for the first 6 months of our relationship! I asked him if he could just be romantic for one day and he looked at me like I had 3 heads then said "Like what?" I hate that I have to tell him everything that I want him to do! I know that he's not a mind reader but we've been together for 4 years! I've told him many times what I like and what makes me happy but nope! Doesn't remember any of it!! What should I do?

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Lb128f
May. 28, 2010 at 11:40 PM

I'm sorry. Your relationship shouldn't be getting "old" after 4 years! :( And, he definitely needs some direction in the romance department (a Butterfinger Bar and "You wanna' do it?")...Geesh. Since he won't listen to what you have to say...maybe you could send him the links below?

But, you know...I hope he WILL pay attention to what you are trying to tell him. Some guys do need "direction" but, it shouldn't be an "every time" thing. Because...if he doesn't step up...things could get "old" a lot faster.

Good Luck!

Some ideas: http://www.rd.com/living-healthy/invite-romance-back-into-your-relationship/article31683.html

http://hubpages.com/hub/A-Mans-Guide-To-Chivalry

http://www.friendshipland.net/Loveland/rekindleromance.htm

While the below info is geared more for marriages in trouble...I think the "Dares" help to bring caring and romance back.

Watch this together: http://www.fireproofthemovie.com/

Read this: http://thelovedarebook.com/

Do this together: http://thelovedarebook.com/love-dare-sample-chapter.pdf (This is the 1st Chapter and 1st "Dare"

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sunmo...
May. 29, 2010 at 11:48 AM

Keep being sweet to him, and tell him exactly what you want in a nice way.  My husband, and I have been married for 13 years, and he may not always give me a mother's day gift (which is fine with me) but, at random times he picks me wildflowers, or does the dishes which I think it really sweet=-) 

Also try to think about all the things he does do for you.  Does he go to work everyday?  Does he keep your car well maintained?  Those are the types of things that men do to let you know that they love you.  They take care of you.

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CAMO13
May. 29, 2010 at 6:11 PM

You should definitely get him this book "For men only" it's great and I got it for my husband. It explains everything about women's needs and why we act the way we do. If he s ready to change for the best but he is clueless, then this book is for him. 

Good luck !

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