Chad & Me plus 3

My life as a wife & mother of 3

 I have a 4 yr old son who had a massive stroke in utero and I went through so much with him in the NICU. We were told he would die or be a vegetable at 2 days old!! They told us he would probably be in a wheelchair staring at the ceiling and we should be happy for that. He is now almost 5 and he walks and talks and plays like all other kids! He walked later then normal and has left sided weakness but he is nowhere near what they said he would be. I still cry just thinking about them tellling me to put a do not recesitate order on him and to stop treatment.Thank God they were wrong but it was the hardest thing I've ever gone through......

Now I'm pregnant with twins which are high risk themselves. I've lost 16 lbs and not gained even one! Doctors say they are actually really big but I'm scared to death! What if they come too early? What if we have to go through that NICU trauma again? Can I handle an almost 5 yr old who is used to all the attention AND twin newborns?? What will I do when my husbands 2 wks of vacation are gone and I'm by myself with all three kids??

I'm excited don't get me wrong, just nervous. When my husband goes back to work 2 wks after the babies are here I will be by myself and have to still get my son off to school by 8am everday no matter how tired I am. I'm sure once they are here I will figure out a new routine. I know I can do it and I have dreamed of having more babies for years!

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Jun. 7, 2010 at 6:17 PM

I am sure it will take some adjusting but you will do great!  I am really nervous too and I am only having one.  I have not idea how I am going to work full time while taking care for a newborn and a three year old. 

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Jun. 7, 2010 at 7:32 PM

congrats on a healthy 4 year old and twins! Im sure it will be hard at fist but you will get into a routine soon enough. just don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Maybe a friend or neighbor can carpool ds to school for you so you wont have to get them all out and in the car on time. Im betting it will all work out and just remember the first year might be hard but it will get easier as they get older.

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Jun. 7, 2010 at 9:06 PM

I can't even imagine the anxiety you must feel after what you went through when Cameron was born. I'm so sorry you still have to live with that fear. :( I just pray that everything goes smoothly and everyone comes out healthy and ready to go home without delay!

It seems you've slowly starting getting your appetite back and being able to actually keep food down. That's a good start. :) I hope you start gaining weight back. I usually don't start gaining until my 20 week appointment but I only lose about 5 pounds. It must be nerve racking to lose 16!

I think a double stroller will be your best friend as far as taking Cameron to the bus stop. There are also some stretchy wraps that you supposedly can put twins in. I've seen pictures but not sure how that is done! lol! I used to be able to put Alex in my Moby wrap when he was asleep and he'd just fall right back out. Though I'm not sure how far the bus stop is. I'm sure it will be a hard thing to juggle for sure! But, everyone will eventually adjust. You just have to survive until everyone gets there. ;)

I hope you have family or friends that can help out after your husband goes back to work. I'm glad you are getting 2 weeks with him home! He will be able to bond with his newborn boy and girl! ;)  

I know you're just as happy as can be about these babies! Don't feel guilty about being freaked out too. I know I am and I'm pretty sure I'm only having one! lol

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