bad mother

[piwife]

  everytime i log into cafemom, there is always that post you know the bf and ff debate or the c-section and vaginal birth. or the drug birth no drug birth. so i decided to see if am a bad mom. naughty me!! hehe

 

lets see according to some people on cafemom  if you formula feed your bad bad bad!( i need a spanking lol) oops i ff dd, but wait i had  vaginal birth with her( epi failed)( oh no but i got pain meds and pitocin) guess am a bad mom. 

 

now ds. mm vaginal birth but with epi and pitocin, oh but i did breatsfeed( well i pump for 11 mts) and nurse for about 4 mts,so am i a better mom to my son cuz i breastfeed. umm NOPE

 

  AM BF AND FF MOM!!! MY BOND IS THE SAME WITH BOTH MY KIDS.   YES THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THEM ALOT OF THEM MAYBE IT HAS TO DO WITH THE WAY THEY WERE FEED OR THAT ONE IS A BOY OR  A GIRL. NO MATTER WHAT I AM THEIR MOM!  THEY BOTH GET IN TROUBLE, THEY BOTH DRIVE ME NUTZ. THEY BOTH PUT A SMILE ON MY FACE AND MAKE ME WANT TO GET DRUNK( I DONT THINK LOL)  THEY ARE BOTH MY KIDS AND I LOVE THEM THE SAME.

 

 

[Kellesta]

Jun. 12, 2010 at 5:00 AM

I can understand where you're coming from. I'm tired of hearing people say you're a bad mom because you didn't do it this way. There are pro's and con's to EVERYTHING you do. Some can't breastfeed and some can't. Some choose to and some don't. As for me, thinking about it I didn't feel comfortable and plus I did produce milk but not enough to feed either of my babies, so I couldn't have. They say you're only suppose to breastfeed for only 6 months and then formula. For me either way is fine, you bond just as much breastfeeding as if you were bottle feeding them, you're still holding them while feeding, only difference is, is that the baby is sucking on your nipple. As for everything else, I had to have a c-section, I had no choice, first baby was way too big for me to pass, and because I had a c-section with her, I had to have another one because they suggest it because if not there is a chance you can tear some tissue and all that inside and you can die. Also if a woman want's medicine to help or a epidural so she don't feel anything, a woman has a right! It's up to the woman, and no matter what everyone else says, if you feel right doing what you're doing, you're doing it right. NOT EVERYONE DOES EVERYTHING THE SAME WAY, OTHERWISE EVERYONE WOULD LOOK, ACT, AND BE THE SAME! That's what makes each person unique, we're all different and if other parents don't like it, then too bad. Do what you feel is right and don't pay attention to anyone else, if you feel as if you're doing the right thing, then odds are you are doin the right thing for yourself and your family.

[star.ryder6]

Jun. 12, 2010 at 7:27 AM

You have to learn to take "soapbox" Moms worth a grain of salt. My youngest is 12 months and I'm still breastfeeding him. Nope, that doesn't make me a better Mom than anyone else. Doing what you feel is best for you and your child is what's in their best interest. You will make mistakes, like every Mom does, but "good" Moms will learn from the mistakes. Good luck!

[k.stark]

Oct. 2, 2010 at 12:17 AM

They're different because no one is the same :) .... I got an epi and pitocin with my son and neither with my daughter.... BF both.... but I'm still a bad mom too since I let DS CIO!!! And don't jump and fly when he starts crying... and I let DD cry for a min before I get her... she's my cry baby.... guess we all suck somewhere!! :) ... no.. you're doing great! :)

[ebukoffsky]

Mar. 9, 2011 at 3:07 PM

AMEN to that!! I hate that the second people find out your pregnant or have a child, they feel they have the authority or priviledge to tell you how to do things.. or tell you you're a bad mother for not doing it their way. Don't listen to what they say..Ignorant people say ignorant things. Every child is different, therefore what worked with one, won't necissarily work for another..