Divorce

[tonys_sunrise]

Okay this is completely new to me but I jsut got off the phone with my mother and she was telling me about all these problems that her and my dad are having. Don't get me wrong I am flattered that she thinks of me as a friend but c'mon I really don't need the word Viagra coming out of my mothers mouth directed towards my dad. Here lately she has been saying just really mean things about my dad in general. Divorce in inevitable I think. I have suggested many many times that they NEED counseling. If not that then a simple chat with our preacher might help too. BUT NOOOOOO. She refuses saying you have to want it to make it work. I know shes right I watch DR. Phil on a daily basis. BUt she doesn't even seem interested in trying to save thier 25 year marriage. She says the only reason she stay is because of my youngest brother, who is 14. I told her if she is that unhappy she definatly needs to get out but needs to try every avalible source before doing something rash. Now I am left not knowing how to feel. I have morals of my own that my parents don't belive is right. But the majority of who I am is because of what they taught me. Things they taught me about life, love and forgiveness. I am left wondering if they were wrong about alot of stuff. I mean it make me question myself because these people are who taught me. I mean lets say for example all through your school years you were taught 2+2=5 you would belive it becuase thats what they taught you. Now as an adult lo and behold 2+2 now equals 4. Aren't you going to question everything that teacher taught you? I guess I thought that divorce just has a negative effect on little kids. I am a grown woman with a husband I'd love to choke at times and kids of my own. Why is this affecting me so bad?

[sts11231]

May. 3, 2007 at 5:59 PM Because alot of your values about marriage come from your parents or realizing your parent's mistakes. It shakes your marriage to think that you may be like your mom in that respect. The values and morals that your parents taught you are threatened now because it seems like your parents aren't following the advice that they gave you your whole life. Don't be hard on your mom and dad though. Maybe she was trying to make it work and it didn't. Not all marriages can be saved, even the ones that last 25 years. I hope it works out. You can send me a message if you ever want to talk. My parents have been divorced for going on 22 years so I've gotten good at dealing with them.

[penguinsrock]

May. 3, 2007 at 6:49 PM I am sorry you are going thru this hun. Unfortunately whatever happens with our parents affects us deeply. You are human. You learn from your parents mistakes and all. *hugs*