venting... mil/dh

[phillipsmommie]

okay so dh talked me into moving in with mil... for 6 months while he goes to school for the marine core. saying think about it 6 months of just kicking back and relaxing. then the secon we get here he tells me he wants me to get a job... i keep telling him no i want to fouse on getting my ged while here. but he doesn't let up...insteed he gets mil in on it. and now both of them everytime we went anywhere was like you sooo could work here. (hint hint) and i would say yeah sure. so aftered 3weeks of that. hubby leaves for school... i go out that day and fill out app. everywhere close to me(since i donno my way around yet) later that day i decide to try going to meet up with a online friend from cm. first time getting on the freeway and yeah guess what happened i crash my car, into two other cars. cops decide it was my fault. so i got my first ticket, got into my first accident. all with in a few hours of him leaving. mil comes and gets me and once we get home she says"don't stop looking for work... your going to need to pay to get your car fix or get a new one" so i get my car kinda fixed... jimmrigged. is more like it.  but its drivable. and i went out again today. no one seem even somewhat instrined problable cause no high school dp. and no ged. but of cruse they(mil/dh) don't think so... they say keep calling, keep filling out, keep puting yourself out there. and one can only handle so much rejection. i want to cry... the only one who even said they will call is subway and thats cause i've worked at subway 2 before. BUT i HATE subway!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i donot want to work there again. i know i should do what i want. BUT i'm stuck in my mil house for 6months with her giving me shit about not working... even if i am going to school. what the hell is that about... shouldn't they want me to better myself?

[MSugarKane]

Jun. 18, 2010 at 7:43 AM

Do what is good for yourself and don't pay attention to ANYbody else's opinion. Its YOUR life. YOU get to decide what is good for you.  You can listen to 'advice' from others but that doesn't mean you have to abide by their advice.  Do better your education now. You can keep seeking a job at the same time but put your energy into what YOU think is best for YOU.

 

[emily29palms]

Jun. 21, 2010 at 8:06 PM

Maybe you could come back to CA and stay with your family for a while.  You really should get your GED, so many doors will open for you.

[phillipsmommie]

Jun. 22, 2010 at 12:29 PM

yeah i would if i could... i crashed my car so no way to drive back to cali and no money to fly back to cali...so i'm kinda stuck.

(Original Poster)

[confuzzledgrl05]

Jun. 25, 2010 at 11:10 AM

Me and my family stayed with my MIL for a month.  After a few days my husband said we had to find a place...he couldn't live there anymore.  SO i know what it feels like to have to live w/ you MIL who pushes so much... and "hates" me.  I've been applying at places since we got here in Feb but haven't had much luck either.  I'd say go get your GED.  You should be able to do that pretty quickly.  Then you'll be able to find a job.

[mamadahl3]

Jun. 25, 2010 at 5:31 PM

I hate that they make ou feel like you are less then you are if I had the money you would be here in a herat beat. I miss you and lil man so much and the kids miss their aunt Jenn so much and you could go to school here and not have to worry. You have done so much for us when you were younger. Hell you gave up so much to help me with all my little ones at 17. I just hope I can return the favor some day.