So I still live with my mother...she helps me and I help her with the rent since she lost her job...

Anyways...she has a prescription for vicodin for like some sort of hip pain... I guess she needs a replacement but can't have one til shes 65 years old.

Well...lately she's been really weird...she accuses my boyfriend and I of things that we aren't drnking her sodas, and I mean she yells and curses at us lol. Isn't that really extreme? Theres just always something we are doing wrong and I have had enough.

Well anyway the other day she calls me into her room crying...she had been working on these puzzles for a very long three of four of them, and finally finished them. Well i go in there, and they are all torn apart! And she said she fell and just pulled them out from under her bed, when I don't see how she could have pulled them out from under her bed and completely destroyed them just because she fell.

So like I'm wondering if she's going crazy because of the vicodin? She's always had some sort of bipolar disorder but now she's extremely weird. She keeps it dark in her room at all times, and yells at us for nothing, and I don't really want my kids around that and I don't know how to tell her to back off without sounding mean. Is it time to move out? If I move out she can't live here anymore. What do I do, I feel like I have to help my mom, but then again...she doesn't appreciate anything we do.

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Jun. 29, 2010 at 1:53 AM

Something is going on. Can you go to her next doctor appointment with her? Sounds like she needs medications either given or adjusted for the bipolar disorder, or maybe she is abusing the Vicodin by taking too many. She almost sounds like my grandma when her first signs of Alzheimer's came on. Try just talking to her and see if she'll give you some clue of whether it's drug-induced or depression. If she seems otherwise lucid it may be depression. 

I understand your frustration. It is never easy living with a parent as an adult, even under normal circumstances! Best of luck to you and your mother.

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Jun. 29, 2010 at 3:56 AM

She just really doesn't realize that anything is a problem. He's tried giving her antidepresents and she refuses to take know typical stuff for someone that needs the help. :/

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Jun. 29, 2010 at 4:14 AM

You may need to speak with her doctor and let them know what she is doing.  I agree it may either a bad reaction to her current meds or she could be having the beginnings signs of alzheimer's or anything.  Something is not right.  I wish you the best of luck to you both

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Jun. 29, 2010 at 4:19 AM

can you get alzheimers at 56?

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Jul. 26, 2010 at 10:08 PM

Ugh that sounds like a lot of chaos-Im sorry you are dealing with that. Honestly, while I was reading this post I was thinking over and over you should move out.  Of course that is easier said then done...this is my opinion is that she will get worse with age. I do not mean to sound negative at all. You always sound logical and of sound mind in your posts which is was lead me to your profile page, I would strongly consider if this is someone you want to have in constant close proximity with your children. I know shes your mom and all- still she doesnt sound like shes in a good place within herself.

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