I give up

[momfairy]

I am done I can't give any more time or energy to a man that only cares about himself and his next high I am absolutely fed up with the broken promises and endless nights wondering where he is and if he will be coming home I am just done. He is a wonderful loving and caring man when he's sober but now that his friend moved back to town all he seems to want are his alcohol and drugs to the point he hurt his sholder so he could go get pain pills and when I didn't take him to the dr he just went off the the friends house to get high and didn't bother to come home last night so I am done I am drained and exhausted and totally over it. Thanks for letting me vent.

[Orionsgirl]

Jul. 5, 2010 at 1:42 PM

So sorry to hear this. Stay strong.

[trelmix]

Jul. 5, 2010 at 1:44 PM

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this but I think that you should be done. Whatever you have to do-get out. It doesn't sound safe or stable and if you have kids, that is not a good enviorment for them to be in. (You either, but them especially). I hope that you stick to your guns and do what's best for you and your kids. You can do it! If you need support or anything, please feel free to send me a message or anything like that. Keep your head up girl!

[NannyB.]

Jul. 5, 2010 at 1:57 PM

Sometimes, when a man like your husband faces the loss of his wife and family, he will have a change of heart and admit that he needs help.  If I were in your shoes, I would make this a part of my departure statement:  Tell him that you can't compete with the drugs, alcohol, and his friends, and that you are done with trying.  Tell him you are no longer going to lie awake at night wondering if he is coming home.  Tell him whatever else you want him to know you are done with.  Then tell him that if he wants to get help and change, you will help him.  You will even go with him to meetings, etc., but what you will not do is live with him again until he has proven to you that he means business, and that you will be the one to decide that.  If that doesn't work, then you will have the peace of knowing that you did all that you could do for the man you chose to love.  I wish you the best!

[wildprairierose]

Jul. 10, 2010 at 4:46 PM

So sorry he put you in the position to have to make the decision to leave.  I know first hand you can't fix somebody that is hooked on drugs and booze.  I hope only the best for you and the kids.  Stay strong, you will make it.