Some days are better than others

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I have been so blessed this weekend. After a stressful last weekend, I thought I was going to die or take someone out.

My mom came in early June and spent a month with our family. As much as I love my Mom, NEVER AGAIN! It is too long. She came for my daughter's high school graduation and to meet the daughter she gave up for adoption 45 years ago. Both of which went very well. What she did not expect was to go home as an expectant Great Grandmother.

Driving her back to NC went surprisingly well. My husband, son and I stayed the weekend and went to fireworks with her and her best friend. The fireworks were awesome...what I could see of them. Dallas, NC puts on a fabulous show. I threw my back out on the way to the fireworks show and had to lay on my back behind some cars until I managed to crawl into our van and lay on the floor there.

We left Monday morning to drive back to Pennsylvania to camp overnight with my husband's family. I love most of my husband's family, but, when they all get together, I feel inadequate and even my husband noticed a bit of the cold shoulder this time. He still did not understand when I had had enough and wanted to go sit in our van until we left. I didn't mind if it was a few hours but bless his heart we left right away. We did not talk the entire 3 hour ride home though. We began our "second honeymoon" on bad terms and it took some doing to get us back on track.

Fortunately, our son, who absolutely begged to go home with us, decided at the last minute to stay with the family and have fun. At least I hope he had fun. I have heard the family accuse him of somethings that I find to be completely out of character for him. Then tonight my husband's cousin said that his ADD and ODD makes the family not want to spend any time with him. My response...fine, I'll just keep him home with me. I don't think we need to go where we are unwanted.

He is homeschooled and going back to  Virtual school this fall, meaning he will log into a class on the computer at a set time with a teacher and other students each day. Self pacing did not work for us this year, mainly because I have been depressed and have no initiative to get him doing schooling.

We moved to PA from Florida 3 years ago and I have yet to make a friend. I am so freaking lonely.  I joined Cafe Mom in hopes of finding moms with kids around the same age as my son that I could connect with and hopefully my son and I would make friends together. Unfortunately, most of the people in my area have small children making that a mute point.

I finally saw my Godmother/Aunt in June at my daughter's graduation. I can't believe that I've lived here for 3 years and not one member of my family has invited me to their homes. I had more invitations when I lived in Florida and visited PA.

I miss my friends in Florida so much. We may have only seen each other a few times a month or not for a few months but it was nice knowing that we could eventually sync our schedules and meet at Olive Garden and catch up sans kids. At least my dearest friend in Florida is still available for marathon phone calls when I need it most. By marathon, I mean hours. A few weeks ago, I called her on the way to the bank and had 15 minutes to talk. When she answered she said she only had a short time to talk, 40 minutes vs. 7 hours. I know that next time we talk, it will be like we never hung up.

My husband's aunt has become my closest friend here. I can talk to her about anything and fortunately, my husband adores her and her husband. During the winter we go to their home for game night on the weekends. She is 100% accepting of our son.

I think I found a church that I want to try. My husband won't be home until tomorrow night so we'll have to either go Wed. nite or wait til next week. I've been listening to the sermon series on podcast so I'll be up to date when we do go.  Maybe I can make a friend there. Maybe my son can make a friend in church who won't bully him like the neighborhood kids.