My ds doesn't want to come home......

[njg3]

My son has been at my sister's for a week now.  He's over there hanging with his cousin.  He confided in my sister last night, that he doesn't want to come home just yet because it's to stressful here.  I can't say that I don't blame him.  My DH I are fighting a lot lately.  We are both stressed out to the max.  We are behind on bills and have had some utilities shut off.  We just paid most of the rent for THIS month.  I am a sahm right now, I have been filling out job applications online, but haven't heard anything back from anyone yet.  I don't have a car during the day to go out and search.  There is just not enough money for the gas it would take to drive dh to work and pick him up.  I am also hearing impaired, without my hearing aides right now.  I have an appointment this week with the audiologist.  It just seems nothing is happening fast enough, and we are slowly drowning.  To make natters worse dh is getting so stressed, that he is starting to shut down emotionally, and is developing " I  don't care about anything" attitude.  He missed half a the work week last week.  He spent two days just laying on the couch.  Which in turn is making me worse, because we depend on him.  I don't blame my son for not wanting to be here right now, but it just breaks my heart.  I feel like we are failing him and his sister so much right now.  

[mouse1085]

Jul. 24, 2010 at 10:27 AM

it's ok for him to feel this way, and it's ok for you to allow him to stay if it's ok with your sister.  Things will get better and this will be a distant memory soon, I hope.  Good luck