I have been fat for most of my life, since I was a child. We all know how cruel children can be and believe me they were. Every day of my life for years I was tormented and tortured based on my weight. It wasn't just the kids though, teachers were guilty too. I had teachers tell me I was fat and worthless too, I had teachers TELL other kids to pick on the 'fat girl'. When you're a kid who is doing everything you can to lose the weight, the pain of that cruelty and judgment is unbelievable.
I have only been able to lose weight once in my life and that was because I was very sick and did not know it. I have spent many years trying and trying to lose weight but no matter what I do I cannot seem to lose it. I have spoken to my Dr. about the lap-band surgery and he flatly refused. He said I wasn't trying hard enough because I guess 25 years isn't enough for him.
Thin people tend to think that all fat people are lazy slobs who don't care about themselves or the choices they make. For some that is true, I'll admit. But for a lot of us that isn't true. Many of us struggle daily to try to force our bodies to drop those extra pounds thin people find so offensive. We try to make healthy choices and exercise all while listening to thin people ridicule us.
Do you know how painful it is to go into a gym to try desperately to lose weight while the thin pretty people laugh at you? Try jumping rope while thin people make boom noises and pretend that you're shaking the ground. Try running on a treadmill while people yell snide remarks about your belly jiggling. It hurts, it hurts a lot. Try going out to eat and ordering a salad and seeing the waitress try to contain her laughter. Try to buy clothes, watch the sales people look at you skeptically as you choose sizes or yell across the store "Hey do we have this in a (insert size here)?" For that matter good luck even finding clothes that you can wear.
How many jokes are fat jokes? How hilarious is it to make fun of fat people in bad clothes? It never occurs to people that maybe they dress that way because it is damn near impossible to find clothes that fit. That if you do manage to find clothes that do fit they are way more expensive. Our clothes tend to be anywhere from $5 higher to $50 higher. Or we have to shop at specialty stores which also cost more and are not widely available. All because no one wants to make clothes for us.
Everyday we deal with the stress of constant judgment from the pretty people. Do you know what that kind of stress does to the body? It makes you gain weight. When the body is stressed it stores body fat rather than using it. Stress produces cortisol which stores and makes body fat. For the record I am not blaming others for fat peoples weight gain, however I think if people would leave us alone it would be easier to lose weight.
Now I am on two medications which cause weight gain but I am still fighting to lose it. I don't know if it will work but I am trying. Please try to be understanding when you see someone who is struggling with their weight, there is a pretty good chance that they are trying.