I have been fat for most of my life, since I was a child. We all know how cruel children can be and believe me they were. Every day of my life for years I was tormented and tortured based on my weight. It wasn't just the kids though, teachers were guilty too. I had teachers tell me I was fat and worthless too, I had teachers TELL other kids to pick on the 'fat girl'. When you're a kid who is doing everything you can to lose the weight, the pain of that cruelty and judgment is unbelievable.

I have only been able to lose weight once in my life and that was because I was very sick and did not know it. I have spent many years trying and trying to lose weight but no matter what I do I cannot seem to lose it. I have spoken to my Dr. about the lap-band surgery and he flatly refused. He said I wasn't trying hard enough because I guess 25 years isn't enough for him.

Thin people tend to think that all fat people are lazy slobs who don't care about themselves or the choices they make. For some that is true, I'll admit. But for a lot of us that isn't true. Many of us struggle daily to try to force our bodies to drop those extra pounds thin people find so offensive. We try to make healthy choices and exercise all while listening to thin people ridicule us.

Do you know how painful it is to go into a gym to try desperately to lose weight while the thin pretty people laugh at you? Try jumping rope while thin people make boom noises and pretend that you're shaking the ground. Try running on a treadmill while people yell snide remarks about your belly jiggling. It hurts, it hurts a lot. Try going out to eat and ordering a salad and seeing the waitress try to contain her laughter. Try to buy clothes, watch the sales people look at you skeptically as you choose sizes or yell across the store "Hey do we have this in a (insert size here)?" For that matter good luck even finding clothes that you can wear.

How many jokes are fat jokes? How hilarious is it to make fun of fat people in bad clothes? It never occurs to people that maybe they dress that way because it is damn near impossible to find clothes that fit. That if you do manage to find clothes that do fit they are way more expensive. Our clothes tend to be anywhere from $5 higher to $50 higher. Or we have to shop at specialty stores which also cost more and are not widely available. All because no one wants to make clothes for us.

Everyday we deal with the stress of constant judgment from the pretty people. Do you know what that kind of stress does to the body? It makes you gain weight. When the body is stressed it stores body fat rather than using it. Stress produces cortisol which stores and makes body fat. For the record I am not blaming others for fat peoples weight gain, however I think if people would leave us alone it would be easier to lose weight.

Now I am on two medications which cause weight gain but I am still fighting to lose it. I don't know if it will work but I am trying. Please try to be understanding when you see someone who is struggling with their weight, there is a pretty good chance that they are trying.

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Aug. 1, 2010 at 2:27 PM

As a woman who has been both thin and heavy in yo-yo cycles for most of my adult life,mostly due to a REAL chronic and life-threatening health condition,I have something to add:you might think it's men who make an overweight woman's life the most miserable but you'd be wrong.It's catty,insecure women who are the rudest,most judgmental,vicious haters out there.Why is it that we women have such difficulty with the concept of solidarity? Is it because we don't play enough team sports as children? I don't know what it is,but,ladies,beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.If we worried even half as much about working on our inner beauty as we do on this shell that starts dying the minute we are born this world would be a better place.Hatred and discrimination are ugly no matter what the justification.

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Aug. 1, 2010 at 2:29 PM

Oh,and to the original poster,you're beautiful just as you are.

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Aug. 1, 2010 at 4:17 PM

daye62 You are very right woman are far moer judgemental than men or at least more vcal about it

And thank you for the compliment

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Aug. 1, 2010 at 8:57 PM

love your self first and foremost. if god made everyone looked the same then we really would be boring. do you  think skinny people life is easy then fat.people. self love is the best love you can have. don't worried about your weight , think about being and staying healthy.

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Aug. 1, 2010 at 10:05 PM


    I am really sorry that you are going through a hard time & struggling with your weight- But, i feel the need to tell you that a few things that you said struck me the wrong way- i am a thin person & just like you i was Bullied all through school- 1st grade thru 12th....... Not b/c of my weight but i bet you anything i went through alot of the things you did- i was Always the last to be picked when we were playing a game in gym class, i always was asked what my problem was b/c i walked with a slight limp & was Very Uncoordinated Even though i am thin- There is No Way i will go to a gym to work out b/c i go into a complete panic that someone will be watching me and see how uncoordinated i am- i can not talk in a large group of people- All of those memories from being Laughed at & Tormented come back in Full Force; even after almost 20 years of therapy- i can honestly say that i have Never thought of a Over- Weight person being Lazy or Judged them for anything- So, i just wanted you to know that whether you are Thin or Over- Weight; There will Always be some type of Bully out there looking for someone to pick on & Not all thin people judge just b/c you might have a little more weight than they do! Thick or Thin; We All have Flaws........ My husband definitely has some extra weight on him- other than his health i could care less- There are Lots of people out there that really do care about what is inside a person, not outside- Take Care-

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Aug. 2, 2010 at 2:13 AM

group hug

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Aug. 2, 2010 at 3:30 AM as an over weight person myself, about the only point i can agree with here, is what stress can do to weight gain. i workout, eat salads at the restaurants, and yes, laugh and tell my fair share of fat jokes...if anybody is making fun of me, i haven't ever noticed. it was is inside of you that matters...i go to workout for myself...i am not at the gym to look pretty for anybody else, so if somebody has an issue with me being there, it is their issue, not mine...if a waitress has a problem with me ordering a salad, that is her problem. i eat what i want...the jokes...well, laughter is good for the soul. point...you feel good about yourself, none of that junk will bother you.

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Aug. 2, 2010 at 5:55 PM

I am fat too :(

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Aug. 2, 2010 at 7:42 PM Women are cruel to others often. I know how you feel. GL and keep up the fight. I know you talked to your family doc about surgery but have you tried another doctor? Like another family doctor or to a surgeon directly? Just a suggestion....

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Aug. 2, 2010 at 8:08 PM

KARRIEMARIE thank you for the recomendation but unfortuately my insurance will not cover it without the referal from my primary care doc, sadly. 

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