The road it took to adopt our baby girl Brooke

[Hopeingtoadopt]

BROOKE ALEXANDRA OCTOBER 11, 2011~2 YEARS OLD

 

It has Finally happened and we are in heaven. We are proud to welcome Brooke Alexandra into our life. She was born on 10~27~2009 at 3:20pm. She was 7lbs 9.5 oz and 20" long. She is perfect and we are so, so in love with her! Below is the long road we went on to get her but it was all so worth it. The minute she was born and we brought her home we knew we were in LOVE!

 

2/13/06~8/15/08 Foster Parents (lost 3 children in a row)
7/21/2008 - First appt with Endocrinologist. On our way to IVF with a Split cycle with ED!
8/27/08- First appt with "NEW" Endocrinologist ~~ Picked Egg donor
8/30/08 - Start Vivelle patch (Estradiol)
9/9/08- First ultrasound to check uterus lining
9/17/08- Mock transfer
9/25/08-Out Patient Surgery
9/25/08-Discovered we can't do IVF

10/14/08- Sign up with a Adoption Attorney
Officially waiting to be matched
3/23/09- Matched with a Birth Mother
3/29/09-Baby Girl Born
3/30/09-Birth Mother changed her mind and kept baby Girl
4/23/09- Matched with Birth Mother that said she was having a girl.         
5/12/09 Ultrasound it was~A BOY???. We want a girl!
6/3/09- Matched with Birth Mother. 
6/10/09 Ultrasound it was~A BOY.
6/25/09- Baby BOY born in Hospital~signed consent  ( husband will not budge from a girl )
7/15/09-Matched with Birth Mother 
7/18/09 -ultrasound~A BOY!!!!!!
8/20/09-Talking to a BirthMother Online for 3 weeks and turned out to be a 16 yr. old girl in NJ doing a Scam "Münchausen by Internet",  She was not even pregnant!!!
9/11/09-Franks 50th Birthday and we been Matched with a Birth Mother,. She is only  11 weeks pregnant so we have to wait 5 weeks.  
10/15/09-Waited 5 week (have to be 16 weeks pregnant to do gender ultrasound)~Believe it or not another  BOY!!!!!!

10/22/09-Matched with a BirthMother...Guess what,she is having a GIRL!!!! Thank you GOD. She is due 10~29~09.
10/27/09-Baby Brooke Alexandra Born at 3:20pm~7 lb 9.5 oz~20"
10/29/09- OMG, She is ours and we brought her home!!!!!!!!!!! Today is Our 5th Wedding Anniversary. This is best Anniversary E~V~E~R!!!!

11/8/09 - First Post Placement Assessment done~Visit at our home

12/23/09-TPR hearing for Termination of Parental Rights of Brooke's parents.

1/4/10 - Second Post Placement Assessment done.

2/9/10 - Third Post Placement Assessment done.

2/9/10 - Finalization Recommendation report from Social Worker complete.

4/7/10- We went to court to finalize the adoption. Best day of my life!. Finally after four  L..O..N..G.. years, we are parents to Brooke. Thank you GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

For all the people wanting to know why we would only take a GIRL. When we did Foster care for 2 years, we were asked if we would take in boys or girls and we chose girls. So we did girls between age newborn to 2 year old. Well in that time we bought clothing size newborn to 4T all for a GIRL. We have everything from car seats to the Nursery in Pink. We spent around $20,000 purchasing items in that 2 year period and my husband said it would be crazy if we had a choice of boy or girl when we decided to adopt, why not  ask for a

GIRL!!!

 

[MiddletonFamily]

Aug. 1, 2010 at 11:51 PM

she is so amazing

[shell81]

Aug. 2, 2010 at 1:09 AM

You answered my question about why a girl but now another one.. Why did you both ONLY want to foster girls? Both girls and boys need homes not just one or the other. A baby is a baby and there are so many that need adopting. If a adopted parent came to me while I was preg then I fount out they only wanted a girl I would not give them my child boy or girl. No I have never adopted or place a child up but just giving my opinion that it is wrong to go through so many moms like you all did and turned them all down cause they were boys.

Congrats on your GIRL.

[Lb128f]

Aug. 3, 2010 at 2:47 AM

on your new BABY!!! :-) She's adorable!!!!!!! You went through so much and for so long...I'm glad you finally have your Baby Girl! Congrats!!! ENJOY!!!!

[Hopeingtoadopt]

Aug. 30, 2010 at 4:29 PM

Shell,

The reason that we ONLY Fostered girls is because here in Pinellas County Florida, when you foster you can only have BOYS or GIRL sleeping in one room. We have a 3 bedroom home but at the time my Daughter was still living at home and so there was only one bedroom left. We chose to foster GIRLS since that is what I was used to, with raising a daughter already. So that is how that happened.

For the other question you asked,  about a Birth Mother knowing we wanted to adopt only a girl. The Agency was great about handling this. When they sign on a Birth Mother they need proof of their pregnancy before they matched them with Adoptive Parents, so they were never told about us until after the Ultrasound was done. The Agency always had 3 Adoptive Couples match to them before that. One wanted a Girl, one wanted a boy and one didn't care. So the Birth Mother was never shown the appropriate profile until after the fact of the ultrasound and if she met with that couple and did not feel they were the ones. She was always offered more profiles to look at.  So you see, even though we were matched there was always stipulations with that match for us and the only person left broken hearted was us. The Birth Mother was always protected and never knew about us.

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[HannieC]

Sep. 21, 2011 at 1:01 AM

This is such a great way of keeping track.  I think I am going to write down our journey from start until now and hopefully I'll be able to put the date of brought him or her, for us, home.

Thank you for sharing.