How did i get to this weight and how in the world do i get it off???

[shuli2]

its been 10m (almost)since Rephael was born. and yes i was big before and yes i was even bigger during. But now i weigh more then i did at 9m with him. How did i do this to myself??? where is my self control? when did i stop caring about myself??? I know very well how i got here. i just dont know how to get back. I keep feeling like i'm in too deep, like i cant do this, like its too late fore me. every time i start working out start eating right it doesnt last more then a day!

I am so sick of myself, i cant even look at myself in the mirror. I get wake up and one hour later i am so tiered! i have no energy and no motivation. I am surrounded by tin ppl (hubby,parents, friends) who can only preach to me.

i need a way out of this, i feel like I'm losing myself to FOOD. It is literally my drug of choice, and dont be mistaking it is a Drug the way i abuse it.

my face before

my face now

[Lb128f]

Aug. 3, 2010 at 2:25 AM

I'm sorry. Losing is tough...and you are right...food is like a drug! :( Here's a site that might help. BTW: I think you are a CUTE Mom!

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[janvik]

Aug. 3, 2010 at 2:53 AM

I understand how you feel. Im the same way. I was big when i got pregnant and got big and now im the biggest ive ever been. Its like the baby weight didnt go away. I feel so ugly. I have strech marks on my belly and my husband hasnt even seen me in 3 months. Im scared what hes going to think im scared that he wont wanna be with me anymore. I get so stressed out being a single mom while my husband is gone. He says he will still love me no matter what but he hasnt seen me in 3 months besides on video chat. All i do is eat when im bored or when my son is sleeping or when I have the time. But i wanna lose it soo bad but i have no motavation to. I even got a work out dvd like a month ago and i dont even know whats on it. So i feel like if i just keep eating i will make myself happy and it will all just go away but it really doesnt help it just makes me more unhappy. My husband said hes going to make me do PT when him but i too over weight that just walking up the stairs i wanna take a nap.

We can do this I know we can. Its just a matter of looking at the food or whatever it is in the face and saying im not hungry i dont need you and walking away. I wanna do things right so that my son isnt telling me he doesnt want his friends to come over because of the way i look. I wanna look good i want my husband to say yeah thats my smokin hot wife over there. I wanna look like i did before. Im here for you if you need anything...No matter how big we are we are still sexy no matter when you say or anyone else because it really shouldnt matter what other ppl think or say to you.

[ddsunshine]

Aug. 3, 2010 at 3:46 PM

Oh sweetie don't let this get you down. I am in the same boat you are however I don't have the family and friends that are narrow minded. I have a 20 mth old and I moved from my friends and family an hour away when my son was 6 months old. I live in a town that I dont know anyone and I was depressed and ate all the time.

Within the last 3 months I told myself that food was not going to take over my life. I also read a Book by Joyce Meyer called Battlefield of the Mind. Its a christian book but it shows that thinking negative thoughts will be your actions. Thinking positive thoughts you will be happy.

I have also started working out. I have done research on healthy foods. Don't DIET CHANGE your lifestyle and eating habbits. By doing this I swear your retraining you mind and its a good change.

But you have to be the one to change and be willing to do this. Every woman has will powerful you need to find it. Don't let negative thoughts take over you mind and body!!

Plus medatate meaning take some time to pray, read, something to balance your life. 

I wish you the best of luck. Keep that head up you can do it!!

[momof3angela]

Aug. 3, 2010 at 3:54 PM

Shuli I totally relate to you.....Eatting became something I didn't really think about to do on purpose but I found myself eatting unhealthy foods out of bordom, stress, looking for comfort.......I am almost 60 lbs heavier and feel gross.........Almost 2 weeks ago I finally said enough is enough....I have been going to the gym...they have a daycare for me to take the kid's which helps.  I have been eatting healthier b/c of exercising.  

I still love ya!!!!!!  And I am here to encourage you to exercise and eat better:)  I need that accountability, too.  You are beautiful no matter how much weight you put on but I know you want to have joy back in your life.    Let's do this together my friend...wish I lived closer to you.

         

[Memigen]

Aug. 25, 2010 at 2:54 PM

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