Selfish or Not...

[Momof3Sunbeams]

My mother and her fiance' are flying to California on the 2nd.  She says to go see some of her fiance' friends.  He told my sister that while they are out there, they are going to get married.  When we questioned Mom about it, she was quite vague on the answer... Do we care that she gets married AGAIN?!.. No, not really.  She will only be married for 3-5 years, at least that seems to be her "being married" limit.  Although, when she married our first stepdad, they ran off and got married and we were okay with that.. we made them a dinner and a cake and whatnot.  So now she is running off again to possibly get married.  Do we have an issue with the running off part? Yes.  I told her yesterday that she is selfish.. and that was MY personal opinion on it.  But, by all means, do what she wants to do.  Her response was "well you girls (my sister and I) got married at the courthouse and didn't have anyone there."  Well, I replied "if that is what you are basing this decision on, you and Dale went to VA and got married and we weren't there, so if it is a tit for tat thing, you are caught up."  This man (who is a whole story in itself) whom she is marrying does not want her (Moms) kids at their wedding or even around for that matter, because we are just not quite the "society" he is use too. So whatever on that note.  But, we (my sister and I) feel that IF she must marry him.. then why not (being that it is her 3rd marriage and the 2nd one that we have been around for) have one where her Mother, brother, sister and Kids can attend? I honestly think that she is selfish.. then again, it is something that I am use to when it comes to her.  

Now that I have gotten that off of my chest.. on a more positive note, the Girls are in school, they started on the 19th and they absolutely LOVE it thus far. Our oldest has 2 friends that are fighting with one another and she feels like she is caught in the middle.. got to love middle school drama!  We told her that she isn't in the middle... that she can talk to them both.. but a true friend does not talk about the one girl to the other girl, that isn't right and THAT will put her in the middle of it,  Our middle one, actually LOVES the 4th grade, an HUGE improvement from last year.. so we are excited about that!  Our youngest one, Hubby and I made the decision to hold her back for another year of first grade, is doing awesome.. But, if she knows the work for an area they are working on.. she gets an attitude to the effect of: Shhhhhheeeeeeeeeesh Mom!! I KNOW this already, do they think I am STUPID?!? All the while rolling her eyes as she plops herself down in the chair at the kitchen table.  Gotta love them!! :)