Ask, "Is this my best?"

[Cassarah]

When life seems to be spirally out of control and nothing is going right and you are going with the flow, down into the undertow, can you say you're doing your all?  If you give your best, your absolute best and nothing more you'll at least have the satisfaction of knowing you have done what you could. 

Not giving enough makes you feel guilty and worthless and lazy.  You spend your time beating yourself up, missing more opportunities to do your best and finding new ways to bring yourself down. 

If you give too much you feel worn out, thin, often frustrated.  Other areas of your life suffer.  You lack balance.  You miss opportunities.

Every choice, every action, every spoken word, needs to be your best and nothing more.  When you're down your best won't be as good as when you are up.  Don't compare the two.  Do what you know is within your power to do and move on. 

Keep moving on, staying present.  Don't dwell on what you could have done, it's already over with.  Don't dwell on what you'll need to do, it's not here and if you're thinking about that neither are you. 

Be present.  Take care of the present moment.  Listen to your kids.  Pay the bills you are able to pay when you are able to pay them.  Let other bills know if you can't pay them and when you anticipate you'll be able to.  Start dinner early. Savor the dining experience.  Hold someone's hand. 

Experience now with everything you have.