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Bully....My Tween?? NO!!
- Sep 8, 2010 at 10:00 PM
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Question: What would you do if another child was bugging your child in school/class: bad name calling, kicking them, or even hitting them on a daily bases??
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My daughter is now in 8th grade. She started Aug. 23rd this year! So excited for her and now, today, I hear that she is now having problems with a girl in one of her classes. In this class 5 of them sit together in a group...2 girls, 3 boys, and an empty seat. My daughter says that it started on the second day of school and she barely tells us now! This girl has kicked her under the desk, called her bad word names, other names, and puts the others down with name calling and even hits one of the boys next to her. My daughter pretty much keeps it to herself, shy, wears glasses, and DOES NOT curse at all. She wouldn't even curse to repeat what the girl calls her. I told her to write down what she says or does to her daily in her new journal to share with a guidance speacialist. I'm going to go to the school in the morning to le them at least be aware of it so that it doesn't get worse. Man, my daughter already has a hard time in school, let alone have to deal with this.....
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Gah I hate bullies....especially girl bullies. Guys go at their victim physically for the most part. Girls are downright vile, targeting their victim's self esteem, heart, and sense of self. I'm going to send a friend request to say more on this. It is not for public eyes! Hope you'll accept!
It seems like this is starting earlier and earlier... And becoming more of a problem for more of our children. My oldest son, last year in K, was frequently bullied about his clothes.- It got physical a few times. Over CLOTHES. (What's wrong with a polo shirt, I'd like to know? "It's geeky, Mom.")
Today is our third day of school and already, we've had an issue with our 2nd son -K- and a child making cruel statements towards him.. using foul language, nonetheless. The teacher handled it well but STILL.
We can't sit by and let our kids be bullied. At all. Ever. Things like this always seem to escalate. I'm sorry your daughter's going throug it... She sounds like such a good girl. I hope the issue is resolved soon. <3
my son was i kindergarten last yea and had problems with a bully on the bus. this year the bus driver has them sitting next to each and i had to talk to the bus driver this morning about it.
it's a problem that is starting at younger ages now.
just make sure your daughter isn't writing what the bully does while in class... i had a teacher take my journal which was for the same reason away from me and i never got it back..
keep being there for you daughter and if it keeps happening be prepared to take it above the teacher's and Principal's heads to the school-board.
Equip her with a digital button-camera and get the proof you need to out the bullies. These days, proof is king and nothing's better than video.
i agree with Fistandantalus
i also had a tape recorder in my pocket book too in school because of the bully problem(but my bullies weren't just students i had the principal calling me to his every day at the time time.EEEEWWWWWW!!!!!!!)
My son is bigger than the other kids in his class. He is one of those kids who are stronger than he should be and built like a line backer. But he has a very kind heart but will only let someone's crud go so far before he sets them straight.
We are working on teaching him right from wrong and to stand up for others since he has the strength to help. So far he has stopped a few bullies in his school from bothering kids in his class.
I am glad you have an open communication with your daughter so she can talk to you about this. My sister and I never had that and we had to go through soldier mode and take care of ourselves. Some people say that is a good thing. But I would really like to slap those people. My brain is constantly in survival mode from when I was growing up and it is hard to let my guard down. It is also part of the reason it is hard for me to socialize and network. I am constantly watching people trying to figure out if they are a friend or foe. Then there is the ever so fun issue with me standing up to everyone and that can be an issue. Because a boss never wants to hear all their bad sides laid out in the open as you are ripping them a new one in front of their employee's.
I might be tough but I don't think I got the "correct" dose of socialization that parents want their kids to have.
Well, first of all, I would try and have my kid deal with it. If it didn't help, then I would talk to their teacher. If that still didn't work, then I'd be talking to the principal, etc.
When my daughter moved to a new school in 2nd grade she had the same problem. This one girl would pull her hair, pull her back pack when it was on her back, kick dirt at her and once pushed her in the mud. This all happened at recess where a yard duty witnessed it all and did nothing. So we told my daughter that the next time this girl puts her hands on her to say in her meanest voice DO NOT PUT YOUR HANDS ON ME EVER AGAIN. Well she did and even added a push and this girl never bothered my daughter again.
My daughter is now in the 7th grade and has not had to many problems with bullies since. However, this is the 4th week of school for this year and she said there have been several fights between girls at her school.
I had a similar experience when I was in 6th grade. I was the quiet innocent little girl and went to a school with a really mean girl. I was scared to say anything to my mom, but i wish i would have and I wouldnt have hated 6th grade so much. I would suggest you have a private scheduled conference with her teacher and let her know your concerns. What eventually happened was my mom took me out of that school because they wouldnt do anything, but I wish you the best of luck! Im sorry some kids can be so mean, but dont ignore it please because it wont just get better
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WOW- i am so sorry that your daughter is already having to deal with a " Little Bully " i am so glad that she came to you & didn't try to handle it by herself- yes, i would be at the school first thing in the morning and put a Stop to this- Most schools have a Zero Tolerance Policy for Bullying- i would take whatever steps you need to for this Little Punk to leave your daughter alone! The Best thing you can do for your daughter is just let her know you are there for her & you will get through this together- She deserves to go to school & feel Safe and not Worry about a " Little Bully " Wishing you & your daughter Lots of Luck- Tell her to Hang in There!
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