Had it with others telling ME how to live MY life!!! (MIL that means you!!!!!)

[my3cutekidz]

Yes times are rough, we just moved to a new state, a new city, money is tight.  That does not give anybody permission to judge me without knowing what I have been doing.  Let me clarify, MIL just text me about how I need to get a job, how her son is under so much stress, how it is not fair to him. I feel like punching somebody in the face.  You want to talk about stress, how about finding out you were pregnant (SUPRISE!!!!!) living in a town where you don't know anybody (because yes the job market sucks, but also has to do with your perfect little boy making very bad decisions that effected his family in so many ways that we HAD to move to try and save this family)  applying for job after job hoping that someone will hire you before you start to show, not having insurance, being the mom to three busy kids, being a wife to your *precious son* who expects me to do everything while he sits back and relaxes, having to deal with problems your son has brought into this marriage, my life, and the life of my kids, having to deal with people texting you telling you how to live your life.  Screw that, I am over it.  I know that you have helped us money wise, but maybe just maybe that is why your son is a whinny 36 year old brat.  He asks for help and you bow down to his needs. He screwed up big time, a few times in the past year and a half and you always bail him out, maybe he needs to learn how to grow up and be a man, not just run to you to bail him out.  He is 36 it is time he learns how to do things himself.  I wouldn't be suprised that if we got over these problems and made this marriage work, that you or FIL (whole different story there, the man hates me anyways) found a way to cause more drama.  I just want to scream, and cry, and run away for awhile so I can deal with what I need to in my life.  I may talk to my parents about my issues, but they don't just bail me out, they help me find a solution, or tell me to deal with it.  AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[Bearsjen]

Sep. 9, 2010 at 12:36 PM

Oh we so have to be friends lol. I could have written that word for word with the exception of venting to my parents as i only have a very emotionally distant dad.

They have no idea how their "precious little boys" systematically destroy things and WE come in to rescue. They dont know because for some reason we love the idiots and want to spare them the embarassment. anyways right there with ya mama.

[my3cutekidz]

Sep. 9, 2010 at 12:44 PM

Yeah his parents know though and they give him all the money he needs to fix things.  They are not teaching him to be responsible he is freaking 36 years old!!

(Original Poster)

[Bearsjen]

Sep. 10, 2010 at 1:16 PM

Same here, and mine is 34 BUT he has stopped asking them for the money and is learning how to deal with his messes(thank God). He even recently told his parents "lay off Jen , it's ME." and they still are nasty to me(shrugs).as awful as this sounds-they are old and i wont have to deal with their toxic crap forever.