According to the mom popluation online, I am a bad mom because...

[clovismommy25]

It always cracks me up how horrible of a mom I must be because of things I do or do not do, starting with when I got pregnant, to how I parent. So I figured, why not list them and make sure I didn't leave anything out, just in case CPS wants to know what the world thinks, should they ever come to my house. Ok, I got pregnant at 16, so I am a bad parent because I had sex at 16, and didn't have an abortion or put MY child up for adoption.When I went into labor with him, I went to the hospital, no home birth for me! And I got epi! And it was really great! So I am a wimp, and because I was teen some would say I shouldn't have been given that option. I had him circumcised!  I got day care assistance while I finished high school, so that makes me even worse, but what would people have said if I had dropped out? I didn't work, his daddy, who I was with and am now married to, worked, so that I could stay home with our son when I wasn't in school. He paid for everything, including the co-pay for daycare (which turns out, we didn't actually have to pay, the lady I had care with lied and we paid her $50 a week that we shouldn't have, she lost her license as a result) I breastfed! But that was a good thing, until I went past a year! Then I was gross and ruining his chance to be a child because he was nursing when he should be playing (btw, by a year he was only nursing about 4 times a day). I didn't marry his father right away. For some, that was bad! I got married a few months after I finished school, for that, I was a horrible person, only getting married because we had a child. Never mind the fact that we had been together for 5yrs. That didn't matter. We rented for a few years! When we should have bought. At one point we got foodstamps when things got tough! Doesn't matter that I got a job, worked opposite shift from my husband so we never saw each other, but we didn't need daycare then, so we could get off as fast as we could! Turned off cable, cellphones and Internet! Or, that as soon as things worked out, we shut down our case, none of that matters. What matters is that we had foodstamps! And a couple times, I even bought ice cream or a sweet cereal for us! 2yrs later we got pregnant again! That was bad, no one needs more than one child! Again, I had him in the hospital, only this time after over 5days of hard labor, got the epi 4hrs before he was born! But you know, I shouldn't have done that, even though I wasn't a teen this time, I am still a wimp, never mind how long I had been in labor, and it was either get it and rest for a bit or a c-section(which would mean I didn't give birth, don't you know?) And again I had him circumcised! And breastfed past a year. Oh don't forget I co-slept with them until they weaned. That was BAD!!! Once I learned about extended rear facing and harnessing, I put my oldest back into a car seat and kept my baby rear-facing, but that isnt ok, because it is pointless, it doesn't really protect them!... I spank, for things like trying to touch the stove. I teach my children about God, but that is wrong, I shouldn't teach them about my faith,because that is up to them! We go to church on Sundays, that is bad too, because even with the oldest only 4, that is me forcing him to go, never mind that he loves going. I am a stay at home mom, that makes me lazy and worthless. I am pregnant with our third! That one has got to be the worst! No one should have a third child! I am planning to get the epi this time! I will have him circumcised as well. I will breastfeed past a year, I will keep him rear facing for as long as I can, I will teach him about God, I will probably end up co-sleeping again, I will spank him if he ever reaches for the stove.

We vacinate! With out delay!

 

Oh a few I forgot, we have owned pit bulls!!!! And more than one of them! DH drinks beer! We support the legalization of marijuana. We are prolife republicans. I am sure there are more.

Here is the kicker. I don't care! Because there are moms who think I am a horrilbe mother for these things, there are also mother who think those who DON'T do the things are horrible mothers! Unless we are starving, beating, neglecting our children. It is time to get over it! We are all mothers, we need to support each other, even if we don't agree!!

[BlueEyes689]

Sep. 15, 2010 at 8:16 PM

from what i just read, you are the best mother. i see nothing wrong with the way you raise your kids. and you are damn lucky to have been able to stay with AND marry the father, you know how many guys dont stay with the girls. im proud of you momma and i dont even know you KEEP UP THE GOOS WORK!!!!!

[clovismommy25]

Sep. 15, 2010 at 8:22 PM

I was beyond lucky! I don't know where I would be with out his support and love! Thank you!

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[SarahBum2]

Mar. 9, 2011 at 1:11 AM

I LVOE YOU <3 your a fabulous mommy and i always go to you for adivce <3 your one of the BEST moms i know and you are fabulous! :) so proud of the womanyou have become and all the obsticles you have overcame! :) i sure do hope i can do as great of a job with my girls as you have odne with your boys <3 you!

[clovismommy25]

Mar. 20, 2011 at 11:10 PM

You are doing AMAZING! Harper is a doll and I know baby Addy will be too!

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