This might seems weird, but is there anyone out there who can help this baby and family?

[JrsMommy07]

OK before I post this I want to clarify that this a blog post that was shared with me. I am NOT the original poster, just passing the info along. I have also included a link to the blog. there is more info in the comments section, but also some troll comments (rolls eyes).

here is the post:

the post in which I ask you for your breastmilk

posted on September 16, 2010

Okay, my wonderful friends. It is time for me to get serious with you. I thank you in advance for how you are going to respond. You see, there is a mission I am going to share with you. One that must be carried out by mothers. You all make up one of the most amazing group of women and mothers I have the privilege of knowing, so I want to ask if I can turn to you.

Little two week old baby M, who lives right here in the Frozen Tundra, needs our help.

Just this morning, I learned from a caring blog reader named Kristina about a brand new daddy and baby in her town who are looking for breastmilk. When I heard the story, I literally sat on the floor of my bedroom and cried and cried. Then, I got on the phone and made a slew of telephone calls. I feel with great certainty that I need to do everything in my power to help family. But I am not going to be able to do this alone. I have permission for Baby M’s daddy to share with you, and more details and maybe even a photograph can possibly come later, but for now here is the story.

Baby M was born at the very end of August. He was due the same day as our wee one, in fact. His mother and father found out they were pregnant the same day my husband and I did. But our stories are different. These parents tried for years and years to get pregnant. Baby M’s mama had many miscarriages and lost a baby in the middle of her pregnancy last year, too. Finally, she gave birth to a sweet, perfect, healthy little boy just a couple weeks ago. And then she passed away in her sleep just seven days later.

No one knew she was sick. She was just a proud new mama who finally had her baby boy in her arms. She was struggling, as many of us can understand, to nurse her new baby. Breastfeeding her baby was very important to her. Her milk had just finally really come in, her mother left after staying until day six, and Baby M was nursing great. She was able to pump two tiny bottles before going to bed her last night. When her husband thought she seemed cold that night and went to cover her up, he learned that she was gone. For reasons that they do not understand, apparently her heart ruptured as she slept. She was in her early 30s.

I am sicker in my heart about this baby than I can even tell you. I can hardly see the screen because my eyes are so bleary with tears.

A dear friend of this family has been trying to help in any way she can. She was there at Baby M’s home the next morning. He was hanging on with no formula in the house; he had eaten both tiny bottles. The last of his mama’s milk. This grieving father has support. His family is with him, he has been given paid time off work, and there are many women helping him care for his new son.

But he had one request for his friends that has been unmet. I am not sure if it is because they live in a small town, but even with the local paper and La Leche Leagues, they have not been able to get enough milk for Baby M. He has just started on formula, after finding out that human milk bank milk is extremely costly to purchase.

The next step? Finding a milk share program. This father knows that his wife wanted to breastfeed their baby. He wants to make her dream a reality, albeit a very different reality than the one they were imagining together. One of this mother’s friends also has a baby and she is pumping what she can right now and donating it. But much more is needed, both for right now and for the days and weeks to come for Baby M. Where are there other mothers who might be willing to give some of their milk so that Baby M can have what his mama desperately wanted to give him but will never again be able to offer? I believe they are right here. You and me.

Us.

Will you do this with me? Honestly, I don’t get caught up in fear a lot, but this is my worst nightmare. Many are the discussions I have had with my husband about what I would hope he would do if I were to die and leave behind a newborn. I have a vision that we can provide breastmilk for one year for this new baby boy. Our home is going to be the collection and storage site. A few plans are already in place for getting the milk to this new father and son. They are eager and open to this way of feeding Baby M. It was what his mama wanted. And we, we can give some mother love to this little boy in a small city in Minnesota who will grow up without his.

If you are willing to help by donating milk to Baby M, please email me at

[e-mail] so we can talk about the particulars.

The post in which I ask you for your breastmilk. And in which you open your hearts and give it.

here is the link: http://mycharmingkids.net/2010/09/the-post-in-which-i-ask-you-for-your-breastmilk/

[Lb128f]

Sep. 17, 2010 at 1:43 AM

[KristiS11384]

Sep. 17, 2010 at 2:09 AM

Couldn't this be potentially dangerous if the milk is not being screened? Imagine two moms both on differnt medications while breastfeeding. While the medications may not pose a risk individually to the child there are still trace amounts that do transfer to the baby through the milk and can pose dangerous, even deadly consequences if combined with another medication.

 While "donor" milk was a common occurance in older days through the use of a wet nurse or even cross-nursing the number of women involved in the nursing was limited and the wet nurse often lived in the home.  This post is soliciting for milk from complete strangers without any screening for potential diseases, viruses, or traces of medication which could be dangerous. Perhaps information on licensed milk banks and ways he could afford them would be more suitable.

[KristiS11384]

Sep. 17, 2010 at 2:19 AM

You could even encourage women to donate to milk banks in order to help drop the cost by increasing availability and collection of milk. (Basic supply and demand issue. Right now there's a great demand and Little supply. Increase teh supply and teh demands are met allowing prices to drop)

[babymomma0306]

Sep. 20, 2010 at 1:41 AM

KristiS11384,

The father can take one bag f milk and pay himself to have it tested. It would be cheaper then him buying milk from a bank. I've done this before, I got BM donated to me years ago for my youngest child. Also if you're on meds you're not allowed to donate and I would think any mom would know this! Like i said, he can get it tested. The best (and cheapest) thing to do is to have the mother get a blood test and judge by that. Hope I answered some of your questions.