i just need to vent

[kcd78]

i am so sick and tired of my husband he gets on my freakin nerves some times. i mean just simple tasks sometimes requires an arguement. and OMG when he wants me to do something for him i do it. and when it is not followed to the letter then there is an arguement. he told me last week that i act like one of the children so i told him last night when he asked me for sex that i was one of the children and he didnt want to go to jail did he oh boy he was mad at that. do i care hell no this is my body and i have my own mind. i am 32 years old matter of fact i am 3 1/2 years older than him. sooooo why do i put up with this.i know that its petty things but they are things none the less. i sometimes wish that i would have never met him. but then karia and mond would not be here. i could leave him but i would miss him (maybe) i just get so mad at him. men can be such assholes. where are the men that i see on tv the ones that love their wives and never argue the ones that come home with flowers and a smile the ones that cook dinner and put the kids to bed. oh yeah they're actors they get paid to be perfect.

[azhlynne]

Oct. 9, 2010 at 12:01 PM

It sounds to me like you have some serious decisions to make here.  A marriage is a PARTNERSHIP.  You and your husband are equals in this relationship.  He does not have the right to treat you like this at all.  What I want to know is why you are allowing him to abuse you like this?  That is what it is.  Abuse.  Plain and simple. Abuse.  When your husband calls you names, puts you down and tries to emotionally blackmail you- that is abuse.  You can either continue on with this and allow him to get away with the abuse or you can decide what you want from your life, sit him down and have a serious discussion about his behaviour and ask him- point blank if he really wants to be a part of this family.  He is not only tearing your self esteem apart and making YOU miserable but he is also teaching your children what family, love, marriage and relationships are all about.  Do you really want your daughter to grow up thinking that this is how she is supposed to be treated?  Do you want any son of yours to treat a woman the way your husband is treating you?  You have a lot on the line here.  This isn't something that you should just let continue.  Verbal and emotional abuse is not petty.  Your husband has NO right.  If it were me, either he would be changing and getting counselling for his inappropriate behaviour or he'd be out.  Life is way too short to live like this and you have every right to find happiness in your life.  Good luck!!