Marriage, is it all worth it? ...

[Shabaam_CFC]

Days like today, makes me wonder if I would be better off alone.

I started the day off with a headache, but got up and fed the baby, and changed his diaper, then jumped in the shower before my son really wanted to wake up. Got out, dried my hair, ate some cereal, and started a load of laundry, My husband got our son up, made him a small breakfast, and sat him infront of the TV watching Yo Gabba Gabba, while Mama cleaned up the bedroom ...

Mind you my husband sits with our son, and plays with him, for a while, while I am in the bedroom, taking the sheets off the bed, folding some laundry from the day before, sweeping, and fixing the clothes in the dresser. While this is happening, I happen to walk to the kitchen for something, and see that my husband is fast asleep on the couch, and my son is sitting on the floor playing with a toy...

So I take my son with me into the bedroom, I finish off in there, go to the spare room and start cleaning that one up. My son is a good baby, and we play too as I attempt to clean up some. I finish in there, and I start more laundry, ...make my son his lunch, I sit and eat too, then my son goes down for a nap...again all while my dear husband is SLEEPING again on the couch. I finish up the spare room, take the sheets outta the dryer, make the bed, put some other clothes to wash, sweep up the bathrooms, tidy them up some...and THEN i decide to take a little snooze.

Why do I get woken up, at my son whining, and my husband DOESNT come to get him? ..I call out to him, and tell him to come and grab our son, change his diaper, and give him some milk,..and my dear husband looks at me like...bah...im tired.

Anywhoo, I lay in bed a little longer, then get up, get dressed, take OUR son to the park (my husband refused to go) visited a friend and her baby...went to the grocery store, came home, MADE dinner, and washed the baby and read him his book and put him to bed.

So after a long day of busy-ness...I ask him for help to clear the table, and put some stuff in the dishwasher, THEN HE TELLS ME THAT HE IS BUSY WATCHING HIS SHOW...and that when HE wants to watch his show or do somethig for himself, that I ALWAYS FIND A WAY TO GET HIM AWAY FROM IT....

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! I didnt ask him for HELP AT ALLTHIS WEEKEND, but here I go asking to clear the dishes HE USED, the CUP HE DRANK out of, put away the FOOD that I MADE FOR US...I wasnt going to have him do it alone, i just wanted help.

He tells me ...you put the food away, I will do everything else...

Its been two hours, and he hasnt dont ANY OF IT! I put the food away, and washed the babies sippy cups, and yet the pans are still on the stove, the dishwasher hasnt gotten started, and his "show" ended like 45 minutes ago...

So nights like tonight, I think, FUCK, i have to get up at 5am, to go to work for 12 hours, and he stays home with the baby, but he doesnt make ME breakfast, he doesnt MAKE ME lunch OR dinner. He doesnt prepare my coffee, or fold my clothes, or do MY laundry, or wash dishes, or wash sippy cups, or sweep, or EVEN CLEAR THE TABLE!!!

I am MOM, WIFE, MAID, FULL TIME WORKER, and even though I know that he takes care of the baby, he doesnt do much else....

I sometimes think that having the baby go to day care, and being single, would be easier than married to someone who doesnt contribute to the family and marriage.

Would I be happier single? Is marriage all that its cracked up to be? Am i missing something in the bigger picture? ( We have been together since 04, and we have a son, who is 1)

Cest le Vie... :/

[momofkids]

Oct. 25, 2010 at 5:57 AM

Hmmm, maybe you should both keep track of what you do all day.  Then compare lists after a week.  Watching the baby and going to work each count at one item for X number of hours.  Sometimes men are just oblivious.