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Due to a recent disagreement, I really want feedback on what marriage means to people nowdays. I am only 23, I guess I am an old soul? I really do feel like it right now. First let me start by telling you what I feel is a marriage.

A vow between two people before God (if you are not religious just subtract the word God") to spend the rest of your life together, to love and support eachother, to always be there for that person. To not run away when times get hard, to respect and be respected. To love this person with all your heart for the rest of your life....

I am more than willing to accept that marriage means different things to different people, as I also have to accept divorce rates are higher and higher all the time. There is a trend. This doesn't seem to be a coincidence.

Ladies, another question I have is what is your opinion on an "open marriage"? Would you be okay with coming home to a husband who has slept with multiple people openly? Would you be okay to go out and sleep with whoever you deemed appropriate and come home and tend to your family, look them all in the face and crawl into bed with them?

To me this would be the most unstable miserable relationship I could ever ask for. I wouldn't feel loved, needed etc. My husband would never let me feel this way. And I have everything I need in my husband, which is why I married him in the first place. Is it a shock to be miserable in an "open marriage"? How do you explain to your children what you are doing, where you are etc. Do you lie to them? When the truth comes out, how will they feel? What if you get pregnant?

I don't mean to offend, I am just curious as to how all this is healthy.




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Littl...
Nov. 1, 2010 at 12:21 AM

I also want to mention I do know marriages don't always work out and there are plenty of legit reasons for divorce!

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Lb128f
Nov. 1, 2010 at 1:33 AM

I feel the same way you do. And, if someone wants to sleep with others they shouldn't commit to ONE. Everything "we" do in life has to be shared with others. At home with family and friends...at work with co-workers and the public. The intimate relationship shared by a couple in a marriage (the sex/love) is the ONE thing that is only between the two of you...that no one can be a part of, you know? It's like where you two can be together and no one else can screw it up, lol! IF someone wants an open marriage, more than one spouse, to "swing" I have NO problem with that...for THEM. ;-) Voted POP...wondering what others think!

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Lb128f
Nov. 1, 2010 at 1:35 AM

Interesting...

Age at marriage for those who divorce in America According to DivorceRate.org

AgeWomenMen
Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%

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Lb128f
Nov. 1, 2010 at 1:43 AM

State Map -- Divorce Rates

http://pewsocialtrends.org/assets/flash/marriage/

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