I used to be so active and loved to go outside on walks. I used to read and crossstitch and play games. I use to make sure that I looked good and was healthy. Now all I do is homework, change diapers, potty train, cook, clean and whatever other "chores" I have.

I use to be happy all the time, but now that I am a mom of two, full time student and wife I just do not have the motivation to do anything.

I sit on the computer most days and get school work done, or research, I make sure everyone else has what they need. But what about me? Where did I go? Why do I not enjoy doing things I once did.

Since we have moved out into the country ( and I have no vehicle to go anywhere) 10 miles out of yown I am even more lonely than before. I have friends but they work all day and when they get home they have family to take care of.

My husband is gone working all day and on the weekends he helps other people or is hunting. He is never home which makes me feel even more like a single parent.

I do not know how poeple do this. I feel so alone and lost!

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Nov. 2, 2010 at 12:03 PM

"...Now all I do is homework, change diapers, potty train, cook, clean and whatever other "chores" I have..."

What is it that you think you should be motivated to do? You are doing the task that have been layed before you. This is who you are now and I see nothing wrong with this. Everything you've mentioned is honorable and pure. When our kids are little it is pretty much their time, not ours. Yours will come. Learn to love what you do, do. Learn to take joy in all you do. Believe me when I say there will come a day very soon, when you will miss changing diapers and having household chores!

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Nov. 22, 2010 at 4:26 PM

I have found myself asking a lot of those things at one point or another.  I'm on maternity leave now with a 3yr old and an infant, and I live in the country as well, and I know it can be very isolating!!  It's hard to be home when everyone else is working, and have struggled to find my place in my stay at home.  I also finished my bachelor's degree while working full time (and being pregnant) and that was isolating in another respect - all my energy was devoted to a single goal.  Now that it's winter, it makes it extra hard because it's not even plesant to go outside as much.  I hope you're able to find time for at least something you used to enjoy!! Hang in there mama!!

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