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staying with him and working out our issues even though i know what he has said about killing himself

should i back off and live my life, taking care of the kids by myself and hope that i find someone better


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i just found out mon, oct 25 that im pregnant, 8 wks along already. the father who's child im carrying is a good guy, but doesnt have a stable job, he is homeless, and his mom doesnt even work, they live out of an rv. i know that once he gets away from his mom, btw, his name is jesse, then he will be a good dad. He struggles sometimes cuz i know he wants to get away, he is 20 yrs old, but the stresses of living with his  mom and life in general, make it hard for him, he has told me that he wishes to kill himself, but wont cuz of his mom, that he is all she has. Him and I both want this child very much, tho we are not married, we plan on it someday when we are both ready, but right now, i am stuck as to what to do. 

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Acid
Nov. 2, 2010 at 11:58 AM

Either get a job or put the child up for adoption where she will have a chance at a stable life with parents who are mature enough to provide.

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Lovin...
Nov. 3, 2010 at 11:21 AM

i have a job, but he doesnt. im 26, and i have a lil girl already who is 5 yrs old, who really cant wait for a brother or a sister, just dont know if i should try to work it out with him.

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oneth...
Nov. 3, 2010 at 1:19 PM

Ignore Acid your baby loves and wants you not to be "provided for". 

Why do you have to decide now whether or not to work it out with him? Can't you take it on a day to day basis and see how things unfold?

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Lovin...
Nov. 4, 2010 at 11:40 AM

becuz he is so attached to his mom, that i doubt that he could make good choices and be a good leader, if i choose to move him in. I know that kind of responsibility  of being a  single mom of one, but now soon to be 2 lil ones. i just dont know, if i should trust him, he gets upset easily but yet he wants the chance to be a good dad, and he says he knows how to take care of kids. My 5 yr old already calls him daddy, and i dont want to break her heart if he decides that being a dad is too much for him.

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oneth...
Nov. 4, 2010 at 12:48 PM

If your 5 yr old calls him daddy then she'll be upset if you break up with him, wont she? Also you would be the one doing the heart breaking instead of him. I say give the man a chance and see how he develops. He's young and getting him out of his moms house may help him. He's not violent or dangerous is he?

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Lovin...
Nov. 8, 2010 at 12:30 PM

no, not really he took my phone out of my pocket and called my good friend randy cuz i took my daughter trick or treating with randy and his kids, and threatened him if he didnt leave me alone or if he came around me, then Jesse, the guy who's child im carrying, told him that he would kiil him and then hung up and threw my phone in the toilet. me and my friend randy are no longer friends.

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