I am 37 years old and have 2 kids who are growing up fast.  Now all of a sudden, I am wanting another baby girl.  I don't know why I have been feeling like this.  I haven't told my husband and don't want to tell him.  I am praying that the feeling will go away or something will happen soon.  I know that we cannot afford another baby right now or that we don't have the room either, but the longing is still there.  I know my chances of having a high risk pregnancy have gone up because of my age.  I know all the risks and I still want a baby. 

I didn't get to stay home with my other two children when they were small.  It was easier for me to get a job than my husband at the time. So I worked and didn't get the time I wanted with each of my kids.  Maybe that is where this feeling is coming from.  I think that I could be the room mom for my kids at school and get my house in order if I had a reason to stay home for a little while.  I'm not sure what is going to come of this.  I'm just putting it out there so I don't hold it in anymore. 

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Chica...
Nov. 2, 2010 at 10:21 PM

Well, it's not like you are 40 or anything.  If you want another baby you should speak with your husband.  I have 5 kids and I thought the 4 child would be the last but I kept having feelings of "oh it would be nice to have another baby".  Well, my husband and I would both joke around about and then one day, wala, we got pregnant again.  Now my little bundle of joy is 2 and my oldest is 17 soon to be 18 next month.  I am not fond about the gap between the oldest and youngest but I love my little Jenna so much and she is such a prize. Take care and share your feelings with your hubby too.

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magic...
Nov. 3, 2010 at 4:29 AM

well that is true what the other mom said before me but you also have to look at the pros and cons with your husband if you cant afford a baby then maybe you shouldnt if you want to stay at home then do it the best reason is for your self i can relate to your feelings of not being there and working because i attended collage full time i missed out on a ton and now we are expecting our third and instead of feeling happy like i thought we are stressed beyond belief and we also can't afford another baby .so i would honostly enjoy the time that you have and take up some hobbies that maybe include your children. good luck on your decision and im sorry you had to keep emotions bottled up like that.

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Lb128f
Nov. 3, 2010 at 8:19 PM

Good Luck! Maybe you should "borrow" a baby for a while...I bet there is a Mom out there who would love some free time and it would give you a chance to remember all that comes along with having a baby 24/7! And...if the feeling doesn't "pass" -- why not have one? :-)

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Torri...
Nov. 7, 2010 at 10:09 AM

You know, it has kinda been the same for me.  My oldest son just turn 16 and my daughter will be 14 in a few weeks.  I have had the same feeling over the past year or so.  I think that it is normal.  I thought I was going crazy.  I think it may have to do with the little ones not being so little anymore. Could be that bilological clock ticking.   I know that if I had a lil one things would be different this time around but then again I just do not know if I would want to go back to sleepless nights and poopie diapers.  When I am around friends that have little ones they are so cute and cuddley until the tempers flair.....or midnight ear infections.  Maybe you should discuss it with your husband. 

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