LadySaphira's Journal

mussings of the slightly deranged

 Looking for a place to just hang out?

 Looking for other moms with adult children who can relate to what you are going through?

Need advice or suggestions on how to handle certain situations?

Did your adult child move back home and is driving you nuts?

Come join our group!

The group has been around a while and we are trying to revie it with new discussions, and games. Come join the fun!

http://www.cafemom.com/group/7434

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Lb128f
Nov. 2, 2010 at 7:47 PM

Thanks!

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earth...
Nov. 2, 2010 at 8:03 PM

I was so excited to find out there is a group for moms with adult kids.. our adult kids are such a big important part of my life.

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itty-...
Nov. 3, 2010 at 1:15 AM

My adult children are what I live for.  My sons are in college and my daughter has given me three beautiful grand daughters. My daughter is dating this male that is physical and mental abusive to her.  He is mentally abusive to my grand daughters.  My daughter just got out of jail because he put her in there for domestic violence.  I thought this would have done it with them.  She is now talking to him.  He will do this to her and then after a few days he will sweet talk her right back to him.  I would love to hang her up on a peg.  My grand daughters don't like him and they are afraid of him.  My daughter tells my grand daughters that they won't have to see him any more and she will promise them until he talks to her then he is right back.  She is also pregnant by him also.  He has 3 other living children that he doesn't even see or pay child support for.  I wish she would just wake up!!!!!!!!!!!!  Is there any of you moms that has been in this situation that could give me some advice of what they went through?  I'm so afraid the next time I will get a call that either her or one of my grand babies will be in the hospital fighting for their lives because of him.

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Angel...
Nov. 3, 2010 at 8:43 AM

I am so glad this group exists. Having adult children is a whole different ball game but they still need us. And the issues are so different from small children and teens that having our own group makes perfect sense. Thanks so much for the group.

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kyuki...
Nov. 3, 2010 at 11:47 AM

I have 3 adult children 29, 28, 26 and then there is Joshua he is 8. Sometimes I feel like I am stuck between groups because I have the best of both worlds. lol Hope everyone has a wonderful day!

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yecen...
Nov. 4, 2010 at 1:29 AM

As an adult child of a mom and dad...I wanted to share this post to get advice and also to show how the relationship you have with parents as an adult can be so difficult.  Parents with adult children need to know that although us adult kids are grown, we still seek your approval and your stamp of "YOU DID GOOD"

am in one of those marriages where my mom was never crazy about my husband even when I announced we were dating much less engaged and then married.  They still bicker about one ignoring the other, not speaking to the other...like two damn kids.  Last summer I saw my mom purposefully ignoring my husband while visiting us.  She thought I was not in the room but I saw it and exploded.  Other years I got on my husband for being an ediot around my family but this time, I saw the stupidity and rudeness my mom was doing in our home.  It is as if since she does not like him, I should treat him like garbage too. 

They act like two children so I said to her that it is not healthy for her grandsons, 10 and 5 so sense the tension, pretty soon they are going to realize that grandma does not like our dad.  With the holidays coming up I want to visit my sister in her new home in Texas but my parents are going to be there.  I swore I would never have them under the same roof again becasue I was so tense the last time she was here I could hardly breathe...it was that bad.  Now my husband is not even entertaining the idea of going to my sisters ( who I have not seen in three years and my nephew and niece), they are an airforce family and have been oversees for three years. I will open gifts with my husband and kids in California then fly out ot Texas on Xmas day.  The kids will have to visit my family without their father becasue grandma and dad , I have to say hate each other so...I am putting more on my mom as I feel her relationship with me as her daughter should supercede all else adn she should sacrifice for me and the kids.  My husband can behave but my mother acts as if she is in physical agony to be around my husband.  SHe would make anyone depressed the way she behaves around him. 

We went to church last year and my husband took pictures of us.  My mother looked as if she was at funeral, you should have seen her face in those pictures.  I still have them.  She just sucks any joy right out of the air, when she visits us.  It was really awful and is very sad for me and the children.  Any advice?

 

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LadyS...
Nov. 4, 2010 at 7:44 AM

Sorry you have to deal with that vencia. The only thing I can suggest is talk to your mom and tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores your hubby. None of my adult children are married yet but my son has had a GF I didn't care for and they have friends I don't care for but I have always been nice to them anyway because I believe very strongly in the phrase "Treat others as you would like to be treated".

I hope talking to your mom about your feelings works out andshe at least becomes cicil to your hubby.

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